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August 29, 2014 at 2:42 pm in reply to: Fear of failure and not "fitting in" in career choice.. #64109
Unfortunatly, it is impossible to decide what we really want. The only way to see if you like something is to do it. It’s a trial and error process- some people are lucky and find a passionate career early on and others take decades to get their.
I’m undergoing the same problem. I had a passion for science and philosophy, but instead took an engineering degree for job security. I found I didn’t really like engineering and secretly longed to do something cool (like studying black holes, creation of the universe, etc), not working construction. Instead I took a graduate degree to do research in environmental engineering (water management) to see if I have a passion for research. I found I really did not fit in and got a bit bitter over everything. Then I realized something… I enjoy teaching. I always felt exhilerated when tutoring math/stats/physics or teaching labs. I made a choice- I will teach.
Now that I have a degree (and hopefully my masters degree soon) I can get a TESL. A scientific or professional oriented english speaker is greatly desired in Japan to teach english to professionals there. I now have a plan- I will teach English overseas.
The moral of the story- I did something I didn’t like, but still found something I liked that I never knew I would like.
It doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you are open to experimenting. Maybe you will find something you really like outside of psych or communications by accident. Or maybe you will find a really exciting job in communications. Or maybe you could combine psychology and communications to something else. Don’t give up!
Does it specifically say tantric sex or tantric yoga? Tantra envolopes many things, and only part of it has to do with sex. Tantra is a practice of liberation, and sex is one means (but not the only means) to achieve this. It is quite common in the west to think of sex when thinking of tantra, but you must be careful.
Maybe try and find out exactly what this tantra practice considers? Maybe you will find it has nothing to do with sex. If it does have to do with sex, find out why she is doing it. Maybe she is unhappy with her sexual life, and is trying to find a way to improve it. You should get the full story before you do anything.
I have experience with visual basic, matlab and R. Once you learn one language, the others come faster. The hardest part is understand how to think in a “programming” way. Once you know how to use functions, arrange loops, use lookups, etc. the rest is just individual commands. There should be many helpful forums- if your not sure how write code just try to google it. You’ll be surprised with what you find