I had experience of ghosting for 5 months last year. Unbelievably I got a hand written card after I failed to reply to texts and fishing from my friends. What amazed me is the apparent ‘rush’ after months of nothing and they had ghosted me. It all felt uncomfortable and one year on, after falling for the ‘soulmate’ line, again…I find myself in the same situation. Groundhog Day.

My life has involved long term relationships (17 years) up to this point, with true love previous to this. Feeling unsure and on the back foot all the time, I felt anxious and unhappy with the ghoster….not settled. Always fearing loss. I will not return again.

I really loved the ghoster, but it’s my belief that love is not possible with someone who treats you with so little respect. I would not treat someone like this, and I want to love and be loved by someone with mirrored values and beliefs. Out of interest my 17 year relationship was full of laughter, friendship and ‘we liked all the same people and disliked all the same people’…..most of all it was easy and we are still respectful to each other. It’s  been a learning curve for me…I hope you find your happy….