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June 6, 2018 at 6:00 pm #211309Jason GafarParticipant
It’s very painful and I deeply do feel for you, however I think if you continuously make an effort to reach out without them as well trying, that too also leads to pain and a huge amount of resentment. Love meets in the middle, where both parties are giving (obviously you know this). Keep an open heart and try to be respectful however don’t always reach out and take the initiative. Focus on yourself and find the Buddha within! If you’re parents aren’t reliable and supportive, know that that’s a reflection on THEM and not YOU. Thankfully you know better and a time not too far will come where you yourself will be a parent. You will be so much wiser, humble, and loving because you had suffered. You will be an actual parent opposed to a mindless idiot like so many parents who allow their children to get away with anything under the sun. Try to do some research and analyze the types of parents your very parents had. Often times the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. Knowing that your parents are simply the products of also bad parenting allows you to feel some compassion, sympathy and empathy for them. Hope this helps.June 6, 2018 at 5:52 pm #211305Jason GafarParticipant
You don’t want to accept the reality, but you have to. I know this is very blunt of me to say so, but it’s the truth. Your wife’s feelings for you have ended. No matter how hard you try to change or do whatever under the sun, it’s over. Why would you, anyways? Why would you want to do something in order to get someone? Never chase anyone. If you love her and she stays, then wonderful. If you love her and she leaves, totally okay. Talk to her again and if she again declines, than it is YOU who needs to accept this. Take some time off from life and unplug. Go through the depression and grief, however long it takes. WHATSOEVER IS THE CASE IS THE CASE!!