I, too, am in the counseling/mental health field and plan on one day possibly becoming a therapist, so I can understand where you’re coming from. I would examine where this lack of confidence is coming from. Do you feel that you can’t handle the problems, issues, or situations that your clients bring to you? Do you feel that you lack sufficient training or experience to be a good therapist? Once you have a better idea of where your lack of confidence is coming from, you can begin to address it. Also, I would reflect on what made you choose to enter this field and become a therapist and what you hope to offer your clients…This is where you’ll draw your strengths from. As a therapist, I think you have to accept that you don’t have all the answers to your clients’ problems, but you can provide them with a safe, nurturing place to talk about their issues and work through their problems with your support. I also agree with another poster that confidence is gained through experience and it’s normal to feel nervous and somewhat inadequate at first…

It sounds like you’ve been in a comfort zone with your boyfriend but you’re starting to feel discontented and wondering if this is all there is. It sounds like you enjoy the companionship of being with him and having someone there for you, but at the same time, your relationship is lacking that special passion and chemistry that comes with being with someone that you’re truly in love with . Should you break up with him? Depends on what you’re looking for in a relationship and whether that relationship can continue to satisfy your wants and needs. It sounds like you want something more out of a relationship and you’re questioning if maybe you can do better but at the same time, it’s hard to break the attachment to him. You have to do some soul-searching and ask yourself what you really want right now. Maybe eventually you’ll decide that you’d rather look for passion and chemistry with someone else rather than settle for something that you’re comfortable with but doesn’t really fulfill you.