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Thank you for responding and the offer to give you a call to talk if times get tough. That is so kind of you.
Have you sought professional help to deal with it? I generally don’t get the depressive feelings just the anxiety takes hold of me and I get into a right panic state. Once I have calmed down and rationally thought about the situation I can grasp that it’s all in my head and not real life and I get on with my day.
That empty feeling is so horrible, I know exactly what you mean with that. My therapist suggested this week that I actually sit with the fear in stead of trying to avoid it and talk to it when it starts to happen. To cry when I feel like crying and be angry when I feel like being angry. By avoiding it I only make it worse she stated. So next time it happens I am going to try this and see if it works. I obviously don’t know the full extend of your situation so I strongly suggest you talk to someone as well and also as Marshmellow suggested is to talk to friends and family about it. At least you get to air it out a little even if they don’t know how you feel at that point. That, in itself, can be a great relieve too.
I would definitely suggest as well for people to get professional help with this type of stuff. I am in therapy as well and that is how I got diagnosed. I get great guidance from my therapist but every once in a while the suggestions she has made don’t work hence me wondering if anyone else suffers and wonder how they pull themselves through.
It’s right what you say to stay positive. I think that every day. I am so grateful for what I have and what I am able to do daily. Concentrating on that and planning things is a great help. It’s those sneaky moments where I seem to be caught off guard is where the difficulty lies.
Anyway thank you for your positive words and advice. I wholeheartedly agree and I am so grateful that there is a community such as this one around where we can find support and a listening ‘ear’. 😉
That’s exactly what it feels like. This feeling of being torn apart inside. Anxious, sad, lonely, desperate feeling of being left behind.
I think acknowledging that we have it, is a huge step forward in trying to come to terms with it I suppose. I am not sure if a pet would help.
I thought the exact same thing that if we all just lend a helping virtual hand or a virtual ear to someone who is going through an anxious time we may be able to pull ourselves through it. Because I do know when my rational mind kicks back in that none of what I felt and though is actually real. I am never desolate or totally alone. I know that my thoughts are ridiculous but at that point they are so real. So maybe talking or writing through them may help us.
Thank you for your response. Let’s help each other! 🙂
It’s so delibitating isn’t it when it grabs hold of you? I’m sure someone out there may be able to give us some guidelines. From reading up about this disorder it generally stems from childhood and being abandoned or neglected in one way or another. The same counts for me.
Fingers crossed someone reaches out. If not maybe just us being able to talk about it and expressing our feelings with others who suffer from this might guide us and perhaps others along a little bit on our path too. I know now from experience people who do not have this find it extremely hard to grasp what goes on in our heads at those times.
It makes me so happy to think I have inspired you to get out of your comfort zone. It’s so easy to get stuck isn’t it into that zone? I know what that is like. I only realized it recently that I’ve been standing on the sideline cheering everyone else on except myself. Taking a leap of faith is so scary but it will be oh so worth it.
I am sending you all the beautiful things you wished upon me back and more. You make sure you get out there too and shine! Spread your love and light. 🙂
I am dealing with the same frantic situation at the moment. I laughed about it with my therapist as I described it as a frantic running around whilst pulling my hair out looking for something I lost. She said there’s no other way to find out than to get out there and ‘play or ‘create’. Unless we actually physically step out and try new things, we will never know what makes us tick. I gave my notice at work last week as I was going nowhere in my job and stayed because I felt I had to. That’s not fair to any of the parties involved. I have no idea what I’ll do next but I adament I will go and find out what I really want.
Is there anything you’ve ever wanted to try or did you see something on television that you really liked? Perhaps you can enrol in a course or do a workshop of one thing or another? Just have a look around and see what tickles your fancy. It may be flower arranging or skydiving. Who knows? That’s the exciting part you’re free to discover whatever you want. Perhaps take a little holiday away from everything to clear your mind. For you to write this post shows that something inside of you is giving you a strong message. Don’t ignore your inner voice. Definitely believe that something will come your way.
I also recommend the book ‘The Passion Test’ by Janet Bray Attwood. It’s an easy read with guidelines on how to figure out what’s really important to you and how to attract those things into your life and living your purpose.
I hope what I wrote is of a little help to you. Good luck in your journey. I bet when you really look inside yourself you have a ton of skills waiting to come out you just don’t know it as yet.
Thank you Matt! Your words did bring me some clarity and as I put above I have decided after lots of talk, tears, heated discussions, etc… that it is worth to pick it up and continue. From everything that was said and done yesterday it has made me decide that it is worth trying again. No matter how hard it was and how much I choked on words and emotions yesterday I finally got my word out. I’m not completely there as yet and still more things have to be talked through and actions have to be taken but I feel relieved and on the path of getting better.
I have looked into the meditation you recommended. I have never done anything like it before and I will give it a go starting tonight.
Thank you for your kind advice and wise words.
Thanks for your insight. It is true how you put it: I am learning and it’s nobody’s place to judge. We have had a talk, fought, lots of angry words, lots of tears from my end, discussion, etc… Although I felt at first as if I couldn’t get a word out and explain how I was feeling and try and talk this through I did the best I could. We are working through things, due to our communication breakdown lots had been lost between us. We have agreed to work on it. It’ll be a slow process but neither of us wants to lose the other one.
So we’ll see: if things are meant to be, they will be. If not then at least both of us know that we didn’t just give up.