Meanwhile he’s still asking about that other guy, “did you sleep with him? did you blow him?” “how many dates did you guys go on?” etc.

So last night I get drunk and text him this

“Look I’m drunk right now so I need to get this off my chest.

Look I’ve to be honest here because this is just getting to be too much. Like I said I really do feel like your actions aren’t matching your words. I know you said you were drunk when you said all those things but I also know when people are drunk they usually speak how they feel. 

I could be wrong but I feel like we’re both interested in each other but I feel as though you don’t truly believe that I am, hence the wishy washy behavior. To be honest I felt like you told me not to get attached because you’re attached and so you’re trying to put it on me. Well that’s not that the case because I feel the same. I know you don’t want to be vulnerable bc neither do I hate bc I hate it that’s why I didn’t want to come over last week week bc I was so pissed with you.

I know you said you wanted to see where this goes and honestly so do I. 

our communication sucks big old balls but whatever but I know pride is a mofo especially for me so whatever you have to say and you dont feel the same timeI’ll take for face value and not try to analyze anymore and I’ll just be done really this time”

He says “thanks for being honest I don’t feel the same way sorry”

Talked to my mother and she said the same thing, he’s controlling even took it as far as saying he’s obsessed with me and is crazy. Also said his “I don’t feel the same way” is another way to control and brought up Pavlov’s dog experimet (where he took the treat away from the dog in order to gain more control).

My mother said he’ll be back and sing a different tune because again he seems to be obsessed.

The thing is I live two hours away and he would damn near beg to see me and be so clingy and needy and when I wouldn’t act the way he wanted he goes to the extreme and tries to goes to the extreme and strikes back aka when he kept begging me to stay and I said no I’m going to hang out with another guy, bam a week later “I don’t want you to get attached”. Last month he saw me out at bar talking to a guy came up between us “she’s not going to call you bro she’s coming home with me” I said no. Walked away and started to talk to another guy he comes up and says “I’m going to knock him out I’m going to kill him” then he started begging again for me to come home with him, I kept saying no he starts saying “I thought we were working on being exclusive! I thought we were working on being exclusive! Just come home with me, just cine home with me, your friend can stay on the couch just come home (granted he was drunk but still). Went home and he kept calling me and I ignored him.

Next morning texted me,ignored that too, then asked me to come over and I said no. A week later after not talking he says “we should stop hanging out because you’re going to want more this won’t be anything”.—Striking back when I don’t act like he wants. Looking into my phone, asking who I’m talking to, and he loves to ask if other guys are black or white (he’s white and I’m black) and all of this and we’re not together and I live hours away. I’m moving to his city soon which he knows and he even suggested I look into his area and mother is afraid for me to spend time with him.

Not sure if she’s being a worry wart mother or if she’s right…

• This reply was modified 9 years ago by jenna.