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  • August 22, 2013 at 9:37 am #40986
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    I think it’s huge that you identify your biggest fear, Kim!

    I think that sometimes when we don’t feel like we’re making progress, we are really making a ton! You are clearly doing what you need to do – I don’t think that means that the pain goes away. I think that it means it lessens over time. You do what you can to get through it. I like to look at my anxiety as a couch – and I do my best to just sit in the couch of discomfort and get used to it. I think part of this is that it just takes time…you shouldn’t feel pressured to not feel frustrated/mad/sad/depressed.

    You are more than allowed to love him! You were in a relationship – there were parts of that that were sacred to both of you. You absolutely have a purpose – you are posting here and I’m enjoying “writing” back and forth!

    “Sometimes things fall apart so better things can fall into place.” Take it step by step, moment by moment. Don’t think about the future. Sit with your feelings. Things have a way of falling into place. I promise. 🙂

    Jen

    August 20, 2013 at 4:56 pm #40860
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    Hi Kim,

    My heart absolutely goes out to you. I randomly came across this searching for other things on the web. I, too, went through a breakup about 1.5 weeks ago. Our circumstances were very different from the ones you had, but I want to let you know that posting on here is such a wonderful thing to do! There are already people out there who you don’t know personally who are pulling for you and sending you the best energy.

    I’ve struggled to come to terms with my situation – the best I’ve come up with is that – while it’s hard to let him go – it’s mostly hard to let my expectations and attachments go. The idea that I had potentially found the person I was going to marry…all that jazz. I’m assuming that sounds familiar.

    I loved the thing someone said about texting someone out of love. Have you done reiki? I have a really trusted reiki master who has gotten me through my harder times. Please reach out again if you are feeling rocky. From the little I understand, guys don’t want to hurt girls, but their behavior sometimes does because girls are so different in their needs!

    One book that has also been helpful to me throughout my dating life has been Osho’s Intimacy. Sending my best healing energy,

    Jen

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