If this helps at all – I agree totally that you have every right to feel the way you do. But for now, it might be best to not initiate contact. Focus on yourself, and your baby, because you can do nothing to change his behavior. He’s an adult.

I was in a very similar position, if it helps to hear the experience of others. I got unexpectedly pregnant from a short-term relationship, and the father was not all that involved, by his own decision. I struggled with much of what you’re feeling, both during the pregnancy and after. There was a great deal of pain and anger. What helped me was to surround myself with people who were supportive (this was a very short list, at the time) and also with other single parents, so that I could talk to them and figure out my own situation. The hardest part was learning to separate my emotions from the relationship between my daughter and her father. Like it or not, in many ways having a child with someone is more of a commitment than a marriage – you are tied, legally, to this person for the rest of your life.

Some things to think on: what are your expectations of him? Is he clear on those expectations? And are they reasonable, considering you two are not a couple?