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  • in reply to: try to stay positive, but things keep going wrong #236641
    joanna
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    It’s a very complicated situation. I understand your confusion, but I can’t really elaborate on a public forum. Suffice to say, there are responsibilities I have to those I love who are vulnerable, which means I can’t walk away.

    in reply to: try to stay positive, but things keep going wrong #236599
    joanna
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    Thank you for your comments and thoughts. I don’t follow the ‘happy clappy’ method of positive thinking, and am fully aware that bad things happen for us to grow. I just sometimes feel burdened that each time I try to make something good from all the bad stuff: more bad stuff appears that stops me being able to do some good? Does that make sense? I am not a fan of books like The Secret. I do feel there is truth in being relaxed helps to attract relaxing circumstances, but obviously you have a world where Buddhist monks have been violently murdered for their beliefs etc, so it does not seem to wash.

    I am not looking for karma as revenge. I am just trying to find some inner peace, by understanding why each day almost is a lesson in suffering. Surely as it gets too much, a cosmic break would enable me to be of more service to others?

    in reply to: try to stay positive, but things keep going wrong #236525
    joanna
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    Thank you so much. I love animals so much, enhanced because I have almost lost faith in the goodness of humans. I know there are wonderful humans out there too. You say you don’t have answers, but just a friendly reminder that people with genuine compassion and empathy do exist, makes it easier to be more hopeful. Thank you. xx

    in reply to: Caught in a Bullying Situation #122777
    joanna
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    Thank you for all your suggestions. He is better today, I know he was concerned as he was stressed about something. He usually is okay but when he gets stressed, I get the verbal brunt of it (I could cope normally but have had an horrendous year, which is why I am less able to cope). I have read a book about the chanting, I will surely try this. Thank you.

    in reply to: before inner peace, now in chaos #107381
    joanna
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    Thank you for your answers, it really helped me to make a balanced decision. I decided to simply offer short condolences and kind words, and then ‘signed off’ assuming it’s a given that I am saying goodbye. If they contact me, I will politely answer, but leave it at that. They all have each other. Some are good people but their high dramas resulted in high stress (it’s complicated). I was raised Catholic but interested in all faiths, and the clarity of these answers makes me interested in exploring Buddhism further, there is a lot to be learned from all beliefs. Thank you for your help.

    in reply to: before inner peace, now in chaos #107331
    joanna
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    They are not people to harm physically (no need for the police) but they have messed with my head by manipulating my life in such a way that I am almost destroyed. Yet this has not been done with intent, but by their sheer self-absorption. They believe they are victims, and have used my over-sensitivity and kind manner to their own ends, which is why I am reluctant to send a message, as I have not had contact with them for a long time.

    I think Anita was right to say in a perfect world to send a sympathy, saying I want no further contact. I just feel this is going to be difficult to do without making them angry and more upset at a difficult time, so may have to leave it. Thank you for your answers.

    in reply to: before inner peace, now in chaos #107313
    joanna
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    This is what I would try to do, but whenever I am assertive that’s when things go wrong. If I do what you say, I have no doubt they will come back into my life, and it is going to cause me unneeded stress. If I say I can have no contact, I will be accused of upsetting them at a sad time etc. Or asked why they can’t remain in contact etc? Then I would have to stop contact to avoid further upset, and this would make things worse than not replying at all, no? Just cannot make a decision as to what is best. Thank you.

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