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  • in reply to: Irrational thinking patterns? #64003
    Jo
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    I just wanted to say that was just beautiful to read Matt!
    Made me realise a few things too, stop and smell the roses along the way 🙂
    Jo

    Jo
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    Thank you so much to those that responded, thanks Inky…yes I have had the silence and peace and of course you are too right, he messaged me asking to see me. To Shawn, thank you for making me look at this in a different way, what is it I Miss…yes of course I miss the physical actual him, but I don’t miss the anxiety and stress that cones with it. I miss the idea of being with a lovely respectful man (after coming out of a 10 yr marriage, that ended 2 years ago). I kinda feel a bit like a failure, I really wanted this relationship to work out and live happily never after, I’m 44 lets not do forget that…it’s hard work going on dates, being disappointed, sitting on the couch alone etc etc. But I have now come to realise that I’d rather do that than go through the mind games, the anxiety the stress. It’s been 7 days and have just started to eat properly…so heartbroken but I’m healing, I’ve made myself be around friends and realise that I’m ok, I’m fun, I have a lot to offer the right person, not just anyone, I have talents, friends say I’m attractive…lol it’s all up to me….I need to build my self esteem and feel good about me, and when I’m ready that right person will enter my life I’m sure.

    Jo
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    Thanks Inky….I know what you are saying, I appreciate your words.
    No body deserves to be talked to with disrespect, I do t do it to him, but I do admit my tone of voice and my expression gives me away every time if he has hurt me or upset me…..he reads me well….why does he not get that’s his words are cruel.
    Anyway, I’m feeling better and not in tears this arvo and tonight…..it’s got to be up from here xx

    Jo
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    Thank you Will, how very kind of you! he would go into a rage and snap at the smallest of things, I tell myself I can do better, but his angry words just keep ringing in my ears… How he hates that he can’t live without me, hates that my actions can hurt him (that’s me going out with the girls) I always reassure him that I’m totally devoted and how I want to spend the rest of my life with him and give him lots of love and attention, but he jumps to the most insane conclusions that I just don’t get. Anyway, I’m going to take your advice, focus on me…be gentle, I will go for a walk tomorrow and remind myself that I am a loving and caring person with lots to offer.

    in reply to: confused and regretful after breakup #63618
    Jo
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    What are you going to do Mike?
    it’s a tough one, when you meet that special someone and you click on an emotional level that you have never experienced, the high levels of passion, the huge feisty fights….it’s awfully confusing. for me I thought it was true love and that you just take the bad with the good….I’m going to write a pros and cons list so it’s sharing at me in the face, just in case he changes his mind…I need to be mentally prepared. Spending time alone and with friends can be therapeutic and the answer can sometimes just fall from nowhere.

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