HI there, I am new to the forums, but yours caught my attention. I am sorry you have gone through such a loss, its never easy to end anything after any amount of time, whether it be for the best or not….but most likely it is for the best…even though it hurts like hell now. I can see this from both view points as I am divorced…5 years now, married 110 and together over 20 in total. It was my decision to get divorced and it was not an easy decision, but it was the right decision…for both of us, even though at the time it made me look selfish and brutal and uncaring. It hurt, and still does at times, but it gets easier and easier with each passing day.

Remember this…neither of you are bad people, neither of you planned for this. This may just be that massive bump in the road for you to be able to fully get in touch with yourself and who You really are and what You really love and to create an identity that is all about You and dependent or reliant upon someone else.

No one can make you feel anything, You are the one in control of You and how You feel. Don’t let this rock you to your core of devastation, rather try to see the multiple possibilities that lie ahead that are made just for You to explore and gain insight and a wealth of knowledge about yourself…..You will be surprise what you find and how freeing it all can be…just try : )

Peace,

Juliag