Thanks for your reply Anita. She is not offensive really. I just see flaws that I struggle to get past. They are flaws that I really dislike even though they are not particularly serious or harmful. Things like blatant disregard for being on time/ keeping communication with someone (but really badly!) – which I find quite disrespectful to not think how it messes people around. Then something like being forcefully persuasive by talking for so long that they convince you you’re wrong and justify whatever they’ve done.

If I reflect on my own life and personality I know that the irritation comes from being the polar opposite in certain ways – that I’m quite obsessive over being reliable for example, and also how I prefer to be more passive and avoid arguments at all costs!

But then I’m aware of her insecurities and perhaps where these traits/behaviours come from. I know that I need to be forgiving and focus on the positive traits but it is much easier said than done! I guess this is part of my journey to showing more loving kindness…