Hi Anita,

In terms of the qualities I listed about who she is “judgmental, not supportive, inconsiderate, etc.”, those qualities are not my mirror – they do however make me VERY aware to never be that way towards anyone, even though I am not. In the past, I had a tenancy to become irritable easily over simple things and quick to react, stress VERY hard and give myself so much anxiety over situations that really aren’t that big of a deal, wouldn’t let go/practice non-attachment very easily with simple things, etc. Watching her in moments such as those, really spoke to me. Where I once saw little nuisances as an “end all be all”, I learned that I’ve witnessed someone doing that constantly with things that of course in the end would be fine. It stressed me out watching her go through these extreme ups and downs that were not even necessary to go through at all. I went from being an easily filled with anxiety person, to much more calm, knowing/seeing it never helps any situation. But it took me really witnessing this on a daily basis of someone else, to learn. And for that, I am thankful.

Hi Anita,

Yes, all she did was state what she stated in a suggestion for me to move out which in response I pretty much brushed it off with a “oh, no I never planned to go anywhere.” And that was that. I do not want to even turn it into an actual discussion to which she would think that would be a consideration.

You are right in that I am very passive of her and her way of being. I learned more this year from her and her way of being, than I have in any situation in my entire life. She is such a sad and miserable person to her core, that that is what spills out of her in all aspects of her life. Her relationships (and lack there of) with “friends”/family/etc make so much more sense to me now than it did before. I am the complete opposite of a person, the type I know she wishes she was, and I know that bothers her. I feel bad for the girl.

The “keeping the peace” thing is solely because there is no mutual ground with her. She is the most inconsiderate person I’ve ever known. I am not a pushover in any sense, not with anyone in my life. With her however, I see her and her energy being brought into my life as a test for me. To see if I will stoop down to her level, or to rise up and send her love and forgiveness and move on.

The living situation is so toxic that at this point I really do kind of want to leave ha. BUT I will stand my ground as far as not going anywhere if the time came that her bf was going to move in – they’d have to leave.

Thank you for taking the time to respond to me 🙂

The girl who told me these things, was given information from a very morphed view point of something that actually happened. He was maybe trying to feel like the bigger man when telling her these things, when in reality, he’s just too prideful and bashing someone else makes him feel better. That’s just my assumption at least.

You’re right in that I will definitely be learning something from this experience. I now really do realize people can be bitter and change a story around in order to make themselves feel better. It’s sad actually. If my “friends” decide to judge me based on misinformation than you’re right, I need to just walk away and surround myself with ones who will not judge me and who will love me for me.