Hi Anita,

thank you for reading my post and most of all a big thank you for your response to my situation. I really appreciate it. I know that you are right and my logical brain gets it but my emotions don’t align with the logic like my heart and my head are having a battle if that makes sense. The reason is because on the other side of it all he is a caring and great person and the things he has said about me that have hurt me I’m questioning whether it’s the case. I used to be so strong and have the outlook that I know myself better than anyone and never let anyone influence me to doubt who I am. Though since being with him I have doubted myself quite a lot and took on his perspective of me. He was sexually abused as a child and I always tried my best to make sure I consider that and support him whenever he needed to. I have a strong sense of nuturance toward him and thought that they way I was treated had to do with what happened to him as a child. I tried my best to be accomodating to his ever changing thoughts but by the end when I fell pregnant I just couldn’t anymore. I keep thinking that if i could have been stronger emotionally that this would have worked. How do I get past this? The things he has said about me and to me are hard to get past. I’ve been blaming myself and questioning my behaviour and who I am. How can someone care and then not show understanding and a lack of compassion? I honestly feel so worthless.