I feel very bad that you went through that. I can somewhat relate because after all, I searched and stumbled across this topic for a reason.

Please ignore Jay’s answer or anything similarly as foolish and unhelpful. It is NOT your fault that you naturally feel annoyed by SOMEONE ELSE that is bothering you, whether knowingly or by ignorance and lack of self awareness.

There is little more infuriating than someone who is incapable of understanding a situation trying to speak with authority on something that they don’t know while trying to say it is your fault for having AUTOMATIC natural human emotions in regard to a situation. If I slap someone and they get mad, should I have the right to tell them that they’re “choosing” to “allow” themselves to get mad and just “think positive” or see it in a different way? I agree that communication “could” help, but we are living in a society where for many people, telling them that they’re bothering you in some way and asking them nicely to stop or be mindful translates in many people’s minds to “do it MORE” either out of retaliation or just because they NOW KNOW it bothers you. How many times have you seen or experienced people proudly glorifying the fact that once they found out they were disturbing someone due to being told, they started doing it MORE? In addition to that, once you let someone know exactly what bothers you, they have power because they know how to punish you. Someone who has the audacity to indicate that it is somehow your fault that OTHER people are bothering you (regardless of whether knowingly or due to ignorance and lack of self awareness) are the same type of people who would be terrible to live with because they have the luxury of doing whatever they want and convincing themselves that whatever anyone else feels is their own problem and can magically just get over it by choosing to ignore their own natural human emotions and adapt to what someone else considers to be ok for everyone based purely on the fact that they themselves don’t see why it should be a problem.

By all means, for anyone else reading this in a similar situation, you can try communication if you want, especially if the disturbances and aggravations from others are occurring in a property that you own. You do have some level of power. HOWEVER, you must also keep in mind that in family or coworker or similar type of situations, your power is limited. It’s limited in those situations because these days you never know when you’re going to end up in a situation where you need someone’s help, and many people are too stupid to realize that just because they would have no problem taking you in or helping you (especially if you’re very self aware, easy to deal with and extremely mindful of how you come across to others and don’t disturb others), it doesn’t automatically mean you should feel the exact same way about them (especially if they’re inconsiderate and annoying, and either proud or ignorant of it). So, out of spite, people may hold it against you that you have a problem with them bothering you and use it as an excuse to turn against you and kick you while you’re down. At least I am speaking in regard to how people in western culture typically act. This is why a lot of disturbance issues that could VERY EASILY be resolved simply by choosing to stop acting stupid once someone kindly approaches you about a problem somehow turn into an escalated event where a shooting or some type of violence occurs. Some people have to learn the hard way, and it is often those who are ignorant towards how they affect others around them or lack self awareness and have convinced themselves to believe that anything that doesn’t bother themselves should not bother anyone else, and if it does, then it is the other person’s fault for being bothered. Those same people are the ones who would be FIRST to get angry and have a problem as soon as someone does things to irritate and annoy them, and suddenly being expected to get over it or change your mindset or stop “allowing yourself” to naturally feel bothered will no longer be good advice, or the saying will be “yeah but this is different tho..”

That’s all I have to say.

Hopefully you have resolved your situation by now and it doesn’t end up repeating.

Anyone else who has an issue with my response should simply just not allow themselves to be bothered or irritated by it and change their perception of it, or meditate instead of “choosing” to feel any type of way about it, because nothing in this world bothers you based purely on the fact that that is what I have chosen to believe in behalf of everyone else, and it is YOUR FAULT that my response makes you feel however you feel about it.