Hi Swan,

I really can relate to what you are going through. I was in a relationship that from the beginning I knew wasn’t right. He was super attractive and very nice & all, but literally, we were not right for each other. However, I tried really hard to make it work, be a good girlfriend etc, and then I just gave up. I broke up with him, but he begged me to take him back. Suddenly a month later, he went out of town and never called me when he got back. I was devastated. Even though I broke up with him first, and the whole time I knew it was not a long-term viable relationship, I felt like SHIT! I was a mess. I felt like a failure. I felt rejected and I was SO MAD!

However, once I accepted the fact that it was over, I started volunteering. I went to the local animal shelter and volunteered to walk/run the dogs they had there. I also started an internship in addition to my job so I would be fully booked and not have time to think about the ex. It was really hard, especially since I had to drive by his work every day to get to mine, and it took a long time to get over him. Someone told me, “you grieve for at least half the length your relationship was” ie: you were with him a year, give yourself 6 months, but it took me at least 75% of the length of our relationship until I got to the point of really being like…oh!..not sad anymore..& haven’t been for awhile either 🙂

I’m sorry you’re hurting, but know that you are loved and you are worth loving. Sending you virtual hugs >—-( ‘ ‘ )——<