Dear Jeff,

Reading about your situation made me compelled to write here. I can relate to situation very closely as I went through something similar, although it was with my ex Gf .

My Gf broke up with me a month ago saying that she doesn’t love me the way she used to. Few months ago she said exactly the same words that she felt like we were living like roommates, not lovers. And I did very similar to what you are doing. Talked to her alot, tried to understand her, and gave everything to save the relationship ( new ideas, new ways).

She was also been developing a much stronger relationship with other guys that she met after her trip to Europe. It made me insecure and I remember the gut feeling something fundamentally isn’t right for months where she was being distant and strange and all my attempts were failing. I felt in my gut that she would leave me. Exactly the way you said about your wife, she would strangely act normal and kind to me as well.

I remember it very well, that gut feeling for weeks. And then she left me.

I am in tears writing this and I wish I am wrong, but I am very sorry to say that please prepare for the worse, mentally and emotionally. Please start telling this to your close friends and family and prepare your support network.

I am still going through grief period.

I wish good luck for you and I hope I am wrong. Stay strong brother.