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  • in reply to: Empath and narcissist … oil and water #99326
    Kush
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    Dear Zenseeker 74,

    I am going through something similar. My ex gf left me after 2 years of relationship. She said that we weren’t “compatible” and ” relationships just need to work”. I have been in shock for a while and yeah many other emotions. After talking to counselor, I discovered that she was a manipulator. In my case, she led me believe that she was the one for me and then abused my vulnerabilities.

    There were many red flags, gut feeling and intuition that I ignored. I did things that goes against what I stood for. I blamed myself for relationship going into rocks and many other humiliating things.

    And most common thing that you will find in these type of people ( your ex and mine) lack of empathy towards their ex partner’s suffering. No guilt, no conscience and no value for someone they stayed with for so long.

    No one deserves this kind of abuse. But life and people are unfair and I wonder if there’s any god.

    Learn from it and grow.

    Although, its been 6 weeks, pain continue to persist.

    in reply to: What can I do if my wife no longer feels she loves me? #99210
    Kush
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    Dear Jeff,

    Reading about your situation made me compelled to write here. I can relate to situation very closely as I went through something similar, although it was with my ex Gf .

    My Gf broke up with me a month ago saying that she doesn’t love me the way she used to. Few months ago she said exactly the same words that she felt like we were living like roommates, not lovers. And I did very similar to what you are doing. Talked to her alot, tried to understand her, and gave everything to save the relationship ( new ideas, new ways).

    She was also been developing a much stronger relationship with other guys that she met after her trip to Europe. It made me insecure and I remember the gut feeling something fundamentally isn’t right for months where she was being distant and strange and all my attempts were failing. I felt in my gut that she would leave me. Exactly the way you said about your wife, she would strangely act normal and kind to me as well.

    I remember it very well, that gut feeling for weeks. And then she left me.

    I am in tears writing this and I wish I am wrong, but I am very sorry to say that please prepare for the worse, mentally and emotionally. Please start telling this to your close friends and family and prepare your support network.

    I am still going through grief period.

    I wish good luck for you and I hope I am wrong. Stay strong brother.

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