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TanyaParticipantHey Anita
it turned out that my phone was having issues. I uninstalled the app and reinstalled it and he appeared. Unless he just added me back. I didn’t think to try that initially.
TanyaParticipantOMG! I spoke to my techie friend and she said to uninstall the app and reinstall it. Guess what? He’s there. Dear God! It was my phone.
TanyaParticipantHi Anita
i don’t know. But I will show him the screen prints of me not seeing him on one phone and seeing him on another. I won’t talk to him immediately because I want to gather my thoughts. I’m not welcoming him back with open arms. If he did lie. It’s the first time that I know of. He gets ONE pass. If it becomes a habit then I can’t be with someone that’s a habitual liar.
I’m thinking of saying something along this line to him. “It’s easy to know when someone blocks you. I still feel like you blocked me. You had your reasons. So I will leave things as is”
what do you think?
Sigh…
TanyaParticipantThank you all for your insights.
He has contacted me and insists he didn’t block me. But the evidence I have shows he did. He is adamant that he didn’t. So I told him I need a couple of days to clear my head.
He can’t explain why everyone can see him and I can’t. He is not coming back home till February of next year. It’s a 4 month overseas assignment. So I don’t have the option to talk to him face to face except we do a video thing. Right now I don’t want to see him.
I know that he has broken my trust. I whole heartedly trusted him till now.TanyaParticipantHi Anita
I guess that may have been what happened. He didn’t have to block me. He could have just told me he wanted out. He knows I am not the confrontational type. I don’t get hysterical. I am pretty level headed. At least we would have been able to end things on better terms.
I do miss our daily conversations. But this too shall pass… I had blocked him on social media, but I thought about it and unblocked him. He can block me there if he wants. I have no intentions of ever reaching out to him.
thank you for your kind words. I always like coming here just to read some of the articles and advise to peoples situations. Life can have its challenges.
TanyaParticipantthank you Gia.
I’m now starting to realize that he wasn’t who I thought he was. I was real and genuine with him and with any relationship I find myself in. I guess I expect others to be the same way, I have learnt the hard way many times. Sad thing is I had refused to date because I didn’t want to be vulnerable and get hurt again. My last break up was pretty bad and it took be years to recover. I just did not want to have to go through that again and so resolved myself to remain single and focus on my career, children and maybe one day grand-children. He came into my life very unexpectedly and I was clear with him about my expectations. I guess he was only able to hang in there for 4 months and used this trip as an opportunity for him to break away from the relationship.
Many times I felt like this is not what he wanted. We would talk about it in a non confrontational way and I would give him the chance to leave. For example. Just a month ago I asked him 3 questions and I told him I needed to know so things would make sense to me again. First question was 1) Is he afraid of being in a committed relationship? He said no. He wants to be in a committed relationship and is not here to pass time. 2) Is he afraid of being in a committed relationship with me? He said not at all. 3) Are we in a committed relationship? He said yes and referred back to the “talk” we had a month into our dating. So after that I told him “We are still on the same page. I had to ask him these questions because people change and priorities change.” I told him I am still on the same page to which he said “I am glad”.
I do feel better today than I did yesterday. I trust that everyday I will get a little better till one day I won’t even think about him again. 🙂
TanyaParticipantHi Inky
thanks. I guess I’m just hurt and confused. This wasn’t called for. I did message him and tell him that. He of course denied it. So he said he’ll be back online on Thursday. I’m just waiting to see if he will unblock me then or not. If he does then I’ll ask him again why he felt the need to block me and let him know I was able to see him online using my friends phone. So he definitely lied to me. He’s never lied to me. So I want to at least give him the benefit of doubt that he has a good reason.
For right now I’m doing nothing. Well I did unblock him from social media just to see what he does.
TanyaParticipantHey Gia
pretty sure he blocked me. This whole thing doesn’t make sense to me. At this point I’m going to keep him blocked on FB and IG and just wait to see what he does. I’d hope that if he wanted to end things he would have just let me know. We were making plans for a vacation and so much more.
I will miss him dearly. He was my best friend. We talked everyday about everything. I don’t understand. I may never truly know why. One thing I am certain of is I will not be reaching out to him. If he doesn’t reach out to me then I know it’s over
TanyaParticipantHe does fear confrontation with me. But he knows I’m not the type to go all hysterical about a breakup. He tried ending it before because he felt like he wasn’t giving me the attention I deserved. I told him ok if that’s what he wanted. But we ended up working things out. I also was thinking if he was trying to end things with me by blocking me then why did he text me to go out of his way to lie to me? Im just confused. A guy friend of mine told me not to do anything. To just wait and see what he does next. If he does contact me after Thursday then I should talk to him about why he blocked me. If he doesn’t then I know he wanted out of the relationship. Im just confused and a little hurt because we didn’t have any misunderstandings that I know of.
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