Hi Littlered.

It seems clear to me in reading this that you much prefer the second man as it feels more authentic to you. It would not be right to be with a man just because you feel sorry for him or feel guilty if you said No. This is YOUR life and lively hood and your answer must come form your heart and not your head. If there is still confusion maybe it could be that neither are right for you right now? Take some time to think. Tell them No the time is not right. Why must you rush into such a big decision…..and it really is a big decision….marriage. You do not owe them anything , but you owe it to yourself to be TRUE to YOU . I always tell my children ….if you cannot decide …its a no . Be happy and time will reveal .lssings to you – leigh K.