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July 14, 2015 at 9:31 am in reply to: I need help in clearing my mind , confused about my feelings about my ex .!!!!! #79843jenParticipant
whatever u said is hundred percent spot on.. it was his father… and i know thats why he is emotionally broken.. and thats why i feel guilty to leave him.. is there any chance that i can get to help him understand this?? i tried to make him confortable by being extremely open about my deepest feelings.. told him everything of how i never felt loved for certain reasons.. n he did tell me about his father.. but i think he doesnt realise he has a problem because of his childhood.. and i really want to help him.. m trying to get over my issues by myself.. reading things.. but i really really want to help him.. i dont want him to suffer alone.. thats y i dont feel like leaving him until he becomes fine…
July 14, 2015 at 3:23 am in reply to: I need help in clearing my mind , confused about my feelings about my ex .!!!!! #79831jenParticipantThank you.. thats very insightful.. however, sometimes i really want him.. and the thought that i will never see him again burns me alive.. i always want to see him and be with him for the rest of my life. even if its impossible i belive that nothing is impossible so sometimes i feel like i should try my best to do whatever it takes to be wit him in case he changes his mind. should i stop thinking that? how u do accept things ? i feel like i am giving up if i stop trying and i dont want to give him up..
July 13, 2015 at 10:05 am in reply to: I need help in clearing my mind , confused about my feelings about my ex .!!!!! #79754jenParticipanti was happy by myself all these while and the past three years he totally changed it and left me hanging..so its frustating and i get really confused.. because what i am and what he made me are two polar opposites and sometimes i resent him because i would never be in this position if i didnt let him.. all i expected was a little bit acknowledgement of the fact but he doesnt.. and it makes me so petty.. i want to be happy and worry free
July 10, 2015 at 10:54 am in reply to: I need help in clearing my mind , confused about my feelings about my ex .!!!!! #79621jenParticipantthats really something.. thank you so much… it really helped.. because its true.. yes he does miss me but not as much as i do.. i know that.. because the way he is behaving towards me i have behaved towards others in my life.. people who loved me too much and i like them a normal amount but i felt guilted by their love i pretended to love them back as much., when the reality is clear.. i guess this is karma.. i m gettin what i gave to all those people who loved me..
July 10, 2015 at 10:41 am in reply to: I need help in clearing my mind , confused about my feelings about my ex .!!!!! #79618jenParticipantThats all i wanna hear.. that he will be fine.. i just want him to be happy and i dont want him to feel alone like how m feeling.. thank you 🙂 i hope he will be truly happy! knowing that gives me strength to let go.
July 10, 2015 at 10:13 am in reply to: I need help in clearing my mind , confused about my feelings about my ex .!!!!! #79616jenParticipantthank you! 🙂 i feel better knowing that somebody can understand. i just feel bad that he thinks m the one who is wrong in everything no matter what i try to do to make him happy. Since you can relate to him, if i were to stop contacting him he will not suffer right? will he feel better that i m not troubling him? i just dont want to be the kind of girl who pesters and keep burdening him. i want him to be happy and i want to make sure that he will be happy without me. he will be alright right? i dont need to worry about him ? thats all i want..
July 10, 2015 at 8:17 am in reply to: I need help in clearing my mind , confused about my feelings about my ex .!!!!! #79611jenParticipantThats the problem, I do not think its bad for me.. I in fact think m happiest when i talk to him.. and i never want that happiness to go away.. no mattter how rude he is to me.. i can never ever think its bad.. i m completely blind to facts … but the fact is that whatever happens i always feel happiest when he is happy and I think i will never find such happiness … He s has some problems but i know how sad he must be.. and i worry.. i want to stop worrying about him!! i want to start thinking for myself first before i think for him… i want to stop feelings the need to protect him and make him happy… how do i get angry at him so that i can be selfish for myself?
July 10, 2015 at 6:31 am in reply to: I need help in clearing my mind , confused about my feelings about my ex .!!!!! #79609jenParticipantThank you so much and i know exactly thats what i should be doing. However I worry about him so much. I feel he needs me and that i shouldnt abandon him. I feel he needs somebody and I am the only person who he is comfortable being pampered by and m worried that he must be suffering all alone and for me to leave him at this time of his need i feel guilty to move on and let go. How do u convince yourself that you should think of your happiness first before his.? How do u get the courage to stop worrying about him and move on?
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