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May 16, 2013 at 9:35 pm #35776LilyParticipant
John, I think it’s part of relationships and dating. There are a few things that have helped me. Waiting several dates before getting physical( kissing, making out, etc) This helps me tell if there is a genuine friendship basis before I get my hormones all stirred up, and attach to someone I dont really want get involved with long term. Just basically taking it slow and using my head. On the other hand, if you want to fool around, not commit, just be honest about what you want and what you are willing to do, or not do. Then you have NOTHING to feel guilty for! I dont know how old you are, but it’s perfectly normal to explore relationships and all the while be looking for the ONE to marry and start a family with. It’s a process, enjoy yourself 🙂May 8, 2013 at 10:10 am #35262LilyParticipant
I relate to your post. My children have coped with my divorce in different ways. My son already had a therapist, so that was a very good thing in place already. My daughter however, powered through it like she usually does with things. She has a very driven personality. It is only now, 5 years later, that I see some effects it’s had on her. I always offer to help her get support outside of me, when she is having a tough time. So far she has declined. I ‘ve decided to trust she will get more out of it when she is ready. I focus on my own healing, believing that my modeling is a powerful help to my children. I strongly feel that when your daughter cries over things, she is releasing pain from all the losses she has had in life. I find it a hopeful good sign she can do this regularly! Trust she is healing every time she grieves, even it if isnt directly related to talking about the divorce. Children go through a profound loss, as do we, with divorce. I try to remember that for myself, and my kids.
Hugs, to you and you daughter, Lily