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  • in reply to: Please HELP! Need Advice.. Boyfriend pulling away..? #43620
    lisa
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    Have you ever read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus? It sounds to me like he is going to his “man cave” to figure things out. One of the most common mistakes we women make is expecting our men to be “just like us” emotionally. Meaning we expect them to think and react as we would over a situation. I may be wrong in my opinion, but it seems to me that this change in his attention to you is pretty current. It sounds like he has a lot on his plate – not that you don’t, but if I were you I would maybe just back off a bit and let him get his head together. Don’t try to contact him, don’t try to “talk about it” until he is ready. I don’t mean that you should wait for months and months, but just give him a little time. Men are not as comfortable with juggling a bunch of emotional situations at once. This is just my opinion of course, i wish you luck in however you choose to deal with it.

    in reply to: Panic attacks, derealisation and depression – change? #43618
    lisa
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    Hi Hannah,

    I am sorry you are going through this and all I can tell you is that it happens to a lot of people. It sounds like you are trying to leave the nest, as you should!, and you and your parents both are struggling with it? It’s a “tug and pull” when you are young, and it can cause a lot of conflicting emotions. But as you get older you will know it’s OK to start making your decisions based upon what you want.

    About the panic attacks and living in your head wishing you were someone different. I know how that feels. In my case, I have struggled with anxiety and OCD all my life. You would never know it to meet me – I appear social and funny, and I am intelligent – BUT I have inward panic attacks all the time. “Did I say something wrong to this person? Did I do THAT to someone else?” “DO people think I’m a loser?” Stupid stuff I know, but I still question myself. One thing I have come to understand is that many many people deal with anxiety and self doubt – it’s just a part of life. And hopefully there will be those times when we realize we are OK, just the way we are. Life is a process after all.

    Anyway, just wanted to say you aren’t alone and hang in there! It will get better.

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