Hi Cathy,

I have a friend who went through this exact thing and my advice might not be so popular, but you know what? She gave him some space and their friendship turned back into love. THey couldn’t stay away from each other. They are still together four years later and they’re still completely in love and soul mates. Yes, things have been rocky for them and yes, he has had a rough time getting over the divorce. They’ve gone through some terrible moments (like when his ex up and started dating a friend of his and it really shook him up and he took some space). However, she has provided him with a lot of space, has learned to get happiness from other sources and has had to spend a lot of time rebuilding herself after her divorce, also.

So I guess what I’m saying is, follow your path even if it doesn’t look like you thought it would. I know how it hurts. I have been there. But in the end, if you truly believe you have found your soul mate, believe this, love him and let it go if you have to (for now). It’s that cliche that if you love something, let it go and if it’s meant to be, it will come back to you. You may find this impossible and you two may end up back together in a number of days…but you know what? Maybe that is meant to be. I’m not saying you have an easy road if you choose this path, but my friend? She thinks it was 100% worth it, bumps and all, and has found the love of her life. At the end of the day, isn’t that what we all are looking for – even if it doesn’t look like what we always thought and expected? 🙂

Good luck, and if he’s your soulmate, this definitely isn’t goodbye. Take heart in that. 🙂

-Jennifer