Thank you I am just heartbroken as we were about to get a house etc and he surprised me with a trip away on my birthday then done it the next day. Also his reasons for splitting up were quite hurtful. He told me he would rather be out doing other things than spend time with me and after 6 years to hear that hurts so much. It has just knocked my confidence so much but I am trying to get through it by just keeping busy and back at gym  I know no contact deep down is the best thing because what is the point in texting?

Hi I am new to this forum I was looking for advice I was in a relationship for 6 years and we were about to look at houses and the day after my 30th birthday my bf split up with me out of the blue, I was in total shock as I didnt realise anything was wrong and was a broken mess. It’s now been 3 months and I am doing better but it is the toughest thing I have had to go through in my life. But the past few days I have been so upset over it and I really miss him. We havent spoken in a few weeks now but I feel I want to message him but what good will that do? Do you think cutting off contact is the best way to be? Its just tough knowing that someone you thought you would spend the rest of your life with is now a stranger to you.