Hi Anita, Yes.

Of course there will always be bad people, bad environments. The important and most valuable lesson I’ve learnt is not to be in denial or run away from the “bad stuff” but simply acknowledge it. Acknowledge it’s a bad situation but don’t feed it with your emotions. Be aware that a bad situation is a catalyst for a negative reaction. Think of yourself as seperate from the emotions and learn the power of selecting what emotion to feel. You don’t have to actively  choose what to feel to fill that gaping void thats screaming for attention.  You can just be, take the situation for what it is and move on accordingly. It does sound very cold and void of human feeling but you’re really just calming the energy that needs to be calm. It feels more liberating and empowering to overcome the reaction that was expected from you. Important thing is though, you need to be aware of what’s happening to you because if you shut off emotionally , it’s very easy to fall into the common trap of denying it.

This is obviously easier said than done and takes a lot of mastering and “rewiring” as humans are conditioned to defend themselves in a bad environment . I’m the most guilty of not following through what I learn.

• This reply was modified 6 years ago by Rachael.