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  • May 5, 2014 at 4:48 am #55812
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    I believe you should not listen to anyone else apart from yourself. Only you really know if you should and if you want to wait, to be patient. Why to listen to other people? No matter to those you know a lot, to those who know her a lot, or to those who don’t know you at all. There would be so many opinions as many people you ask.

    You need to trust yourself, maybe your intuition. Calm down, relax, take an emotional holiday and then MAYBE you will realize what is best for you. No one can tell you act like this or like that.

    And remember, no matter what you choose and how it will end up don’t think what would happen if you had done sth else.

    April 2, 2014 at 12:21 am #53993
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    Sunseeker26,

    You are completely right. I need to start loving myself because now I apparently don’t. You are right I want others to make me happy. Why can’t I make myself happy? It shouldn’t be this way. I will be working on it, don’t know how, but I believe that this amazing site and a help from psychologist will help me.

    Thank you, your words made me realize important issue about me.

    April 1, 2014 at 12:23 am #53923
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    Dear JasmineJasnime,

    Probably you are right, I am just too confused with whole my life now, and not resolved problems from he past and this is why I am in such a pain. I realised my problems PLUS lost my partner and I am just a mess.

    Yes – I need time.

    Thank you!

    April 1, 2014 at 12:21 am #53922
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    He is also saying that he needs time, even maybe move out think everything over because he loves me and cares about me but he was crapped on by me for so long, he was so patinet for so long (6 months) and he needs to figure out if he can forgive me and start over. He is afraid that if I change it will be for a month or two. I know it is not true. I know my mistakes, I have always leaned on my mistakes and I always become a better person. I can really see how I evaluated over years. From the other side, should I accept that? Shouldn’t I expect that a real love is patient and forgiving? He was not perfect as well? I should forget and forgive a lot of stuff. I should also accept his disadvantages. Is it how it should be? Isn’t it all about?

    Do I want him so badly only because he said this is the end? Or do I really love him? What is love? I guess I stopped believing in it and in relationships.

    March 31, 2014 at 3:52 am #53861
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    Dear Lynda,

    I can absolutely understand what you feel as I believe I am quite similar. It is really difficult to forget and not try to fix it, but that’s the only thing you should and you really can do to feel better. The faster the better, no matter how difficult it is. Forgetting can be painful but is really a faster solution than digging in the past. It is beter to heal in 6 months than in 2 years.

    Please do it for yourself and just forget, take a lesson and focus on yourself.

    Lostabroad

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