Anita – thank for your reply. We have shared custody, our 3 kids spend 50/50 with me and her. She now lives with her new girlfriend. Yes, that was also quite a change, to learn that your ex likes women. I don’t like to think she is a bad person, but my girlfriend tells me that I am/was too nice to her. We got divorced because we simply stopped loving each other. We were more roommates than anything else. She was supposed to draft the divorce papers but she never did. We had agreed that assets would be divided as of the day of the separation, but when the mediation came 2 years later, she asked for more alimony because if we would go to the judge, the judge would likely give her 50% of the assets as of the divorce date; my 401K had gone up, and my stock plan as well. I froze that mediation day and conceded. I keep replaying that day over and over in my head of what went wrong and what I could have done to not give her so much money. I am not in a terrible spot right now, but she has now paid off her house. I should have ask for a financial advisor help, and I know I am going to have tax debts too. So many things I could have prepared for, but I chose not to.

I am not in a dire situation. I could be better. But there is nothing I can do at this moment. I want to move on. I need to move on. I need to forget to live in the past. But I struggle with it.