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August 2, 2016 at 1:08 am #111288MagalieParticipant
Dear HikerGal
I know there are tons of blogs out there
but I’d still like to recommend one.It helped me through the worst days of
my
life and it basically explains why we
would
run after people who treat us badly
instead of
loving ourselves.It’s baggagereclaim.co.uk
Hope it helps
xxx
All the bestMay 3, 2016 at 6:56 pm #103502MagalieParticipantDear Romanticdaydream
Unfortunately life is not a Hollywood
romcom where all of the heroine’s
obstacles are
resolved in 1:30h and she ends up with
her Prince Charming for a happy ever after.Life and people are full of
contradictions and ambiguity.
That is what make our struggles so hard
but the outcome is so worthwhile..I interpret your situation thus:
From your mentioning “First love” I guess
that you are still a young woman.You want to go out with your
girlfriends, travel, flirt a bit, meet interesting
people, find out who you are and what
you want to do with your life..AT the same time you find yourself with
this amazing guy. But what once felt
wonderful suddenly feels like too much of a burden..You feel responsible for him being happy,
for the relationship and it’s all just
too much..It doesn’t make you a bad person..
Maybe you were too harsh on yourself,
put too much pressure on yourself to make him him happy..Just let go.
You can make all the plans in the
world, life will turn out the way
it will turn out.You may be happily married for the rest
of your lives or he may get cold feet
before the weddding and leave you for
the sexy cheerleader
he met at his sister’s prom..You can not plan everything, you can not control everything and you can not make
him happy because that is an inside job.A relationship is about growing together.
You can certainly explore life and who
you are
with him by your side.
You don’t have to be single to enjoy your
youth.Take things slowly and if you decide to
get
back together with him don’t forget who
you are outside of the relationship.
Make time for friends and hobbys!Hope this helped a bit .
Take care!
xxx
Magalie
February 24, 2016 at 9:13 pm #97157MagalieParticipantDear Dina,
I am suffering from compulsions too.
It’s because we’re bottling up our feeling.
There seems to be some unresolved issue going
on with your ex. .Why is being in control so important to you?
What are you so afraid of?Own your feelings, open up, talk to friends and a therapist and it will get better.
Take care
xxx
MagalieFebruary 16, 2016 at 10:35 pm #96248MagalieParticipantMax I also recommend the blog
baggagereclaim.co.uk
for the broken heartedFebruary 16, 2016 at 10:31 pm #96247MagalieParticipantDear Jamie
Why are you being so hard on yourself?
Why do you have to be the only one to
take the blame here?I will tell you something that is really
simple:You acted crazy in the relationship.
Not because you’re a mean crazy person
but because you were not ready .
Neither you nor he should have started
the relationship – but hey – no reason
crying over spilled milk.5 months isn’t all that long to have
invested in a bad relationship..If your guy is even half as perfect as
you say he is and your true soul mate,
not only will he forgive you but he will
wait for you until you are ready. .If he runs to the next woman, don’t blame yourself and stop idealizing him. .
If he truly loves you, he’ll patiently
wait until you are ready to be with him.
That what I’d call your true Prince
Charming
🙂The universe has a funny way of making
things work out – forget the past and
move on with your life – with or without
him by your
side – it is his choice … -
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