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  • in reply to: Months after break up its harder now? #111288
    Magalie
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    Dear HikerGal

    I know there are tons of blogs out there
    but I’d still like to recommend one.

    It helped me through the worst days of
    my
    life and it basically explains why we
    would
    run after people who treat us badly
    instead of
    loving ourselves.

    It’s baggagereclaim.co.uk

    Hope it helps

    xxx
    All the best

    in reply to: Broke up with my boyfriend but I still love him.. #103502
    Magalie
    Participant

    Dear Romanticdaydream

    Unfortunately life is not a Hollywood
    romcom where all of the heroine’s
    obstacles are
    resolved in 1:30h and she ends up with
    her Prince Charming for a happy ever after.

    Life and people are full of
    contradictions and ambiguity.
    That is what make our struggles so hard
    but the outcome is so worthwhile..

    I interpret your situation thus:

    From your mentioning “First love” I guess
    that you are still a young woman.

    You want to go out with your
    girlfriends, travel, flirt a bit, meet interesting
    people, find out who you are and what
    you want to do with your life..

    AT the same time you find yourself with
    this amazing guy. But what once felt
    wonderful suddenly feels like too much of a burden..

    You feel responsible for him being happy,
    for the relationship and it’s all just
    too much..

    It doesn’t make you a bad person..

    Maybe you were too harsh on yourself,
    put too much pressure on yourself to make him him happy..

    Just let go.

    You can make all the plans in the
    world, life will turn out the way
    it will turn out.

    You may be happily married for the rest
    of your lives or he may get cold feet
    before the weddding and leave you for
    the sexy cheerleader
    he met at his sister’s prom..

    You can not plan everything, you can not control everything and you can not make
    him happy because that is an inside job.

    A relationship is about growing together.
    You can certainly explore life and who
    you are
    with him by your side.
    You don’t have to be single to enjoy your
    youth.

    Take things slowly and if you decide to
    get
    back together with him don’t forget who
    you are outside of the relationship.
    Make time for friends and hobbys!

    Hope this helped a bit .

    Take care!

    xxx

    Magalie

    in reply to: Obsessions, Compulsions and how to stop!? #97157
    Magalie
    Participant

    Dear Dina,

    I am suffering from compulsions too.

    It’s because we’re bottling up our feeling.

    There seems to be some unresolved issue going
    on with your ex. .

    Why is being in control so important to you?
    What are you so afraid of?

    Own your feelings, open up, talk to friends and a therapist and it will get better.

    Take care

    xxx
    Magalie

    Magalie
    Participant

    Max I also recommend the blog
    baggagereclaim.co.uk
    for the broken hearted

    Magalie
    Participant

    Dear Jamie

    Why are you being so hard on yourself?

    Why do you have to be the only one to
    take the blame here?

    I will tell you something that is really
    simple:

    You acted crazy in the relationship.
    Not because you’re a mean crazy person
    but because you were not ready .
    Neither you nor he should have started
    the relationship – but hey – no reason
    crying over spilled milk.

    5 months isn’t all that long to have
    invested in a bad relationship..

    If your guy is even half as perfect as
    you say he is and your true soul mate,
    not only will he forgive you but he will
    wait for you until you are ready. .

    If he runs to the next woman, don’t blame yourself and stop idealizing him. .

    If he truly loves you, he’ll patiently
    wait until you are ready to be with him.
    That what I’d call your true Prince
    Charming
    🙂

    The universe has a funny way of making
    things work out – forget the past and
    move on with your life – with or without
    him by your
    side – it is his choice …

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