P.S. Happy Birthday!!! 😀

Hi Mac,

I read about your situation and can feel your pain over the months that this has occurred. I hope you can find peace and acceptance sooner than later. I really like the advice Matt and some others have given you about keeping an open heart and wishing the best for him. I found that that helped me out of a hole in my heart (only to throw me into another–but that’s another post!), and brought my consciousness to another level. I’m finding that asking myself if I’m showing myself love and respect in the situation helps because do we really want to be with someone who can’t fulfill our needs? I know, I know, then the question of unconditional love comes in and all the hope…aaackkk!

One thing that helped me when I was going through my divorce 5 years ago was Pema Chodron’s Getting Unstuck. One thing she talks about is learning to stay in the moment rather than allow your mind to drift into the past or future… Probably one of the biggest insights I had was after she said something along the lines of us knowing we are going to die sooner or later, so how long do I want to spend the time I have to live life sad or angry? The answer was simple: NOT LONG. That was powerful for me. l So many points she make in that teaching helped me to let go…now I only need to practice it in the situation I’m in NOW. 😛 But I’m trying to take advantage of this tender heart so that I can possible launch myself into positive transformation. So I know it’s not easy, but decide if this is worth getting physical complications besides the mental ones…I think you need to start taking care of you. You’re worth it!