I agree with you both 100%! The thing is, my boyfriend is the most forgiving person, when I told him about my drunk mistake he said everyone makes mistakes and he knows how hard our relationship was for a bit. I’m just worried that if I keep it in and don’t tell him it will come back in a few years and I feel like being honest now is better then later. I just want the guilt to go away, because he deserves the world

I agree 100% to no fighting! The only thing is he has pretty bad anxiety, and whenever something triggers the anxiety he acts like a completely different person. Which can sometimes cause him to get angry with me, and can try and blame the whole situation on me. I understand that anxiety can do that, because I have it too but when that happens I don’t know how to react cause it just makes me want to fight back so he will realize it isn’t my fault, its just his reaction to the situation. But at the same time I would much rather resolve the issue than win the fight. In that case, if its just his anxiety what do I do? He realizes after the fact that it was the anxiety but not until he gets home and thinks about how he reacted. I want to be there for him, and I usually am but when he blames it all on me its hard to sympathize and not over react.

We have been in a relationship in the past yes, when we took a break we decided to take things slower and we didn’t want to get back into a relationship super quick. We both wanted to work on ourselves because we realized we relied on each other for happiness which was draining. But for Cuba we were still together, acting the same as we did before we just didn’t have label on it. Communication is kinda getting harder because I feel that if I mention anything to make our relationship better its just me nagging. I want us to work out so bad so I’m going to try and control lashing out at the little things because it causes unnecessary  fighting. Only thing is I feel like this last little argument was the last straw for him, he was acting so different in the morning. How do I make this better, I feel like I’m going crazy!! We both love each other a lot, but I just want to stop the little fights.