Profile
Forum Replies Created
-
AuthorPosts
-
August 21, 2025 at 9:37 am #448850
ManagoFandango
ParticipantHello, dear Anita
Thank you for your kind words. I spoke to my parents about this situation and we had a nice family moment with hugs and tears. I felt I needed to tell them just in case the MIL wanted to make a scene or something. I also told my fiancee, that we will give the money back the moment she will try to impose something on us. She is his mom and he feels bad rejecting a gift from her, but we agree on the strings attached part.
Thanks for letting me vent. You are a very nice and caring person, and I hope that all the good things you do will come back to you! <3April 9, 2024 at 11:55 am #431470ManagoFandango
ParticipantDo you have any book recommendations that talk about human behavior? I think that this could help me further.
April 8, 2024 at 12:20 pm #430775ManagoFandango
ParticipantThank you, that’s a wonderful insight.
April 8, 2024 at 10:18 am #430767ManagoFandango
ParticipantYes, very familiar. I’ve begun distancing myself from and I’m beginning to feel ok again.
The only thing that upsets me is that I see that I’ve upset her, and as a person that likes everyone to be happy I don’t want to fall in that trap again. Because if I’m nice to her she will start with the requests again. I realised that if stating my boundaries upsets someone I just have to let it be.
And what is this with the fact that she never asks guys to do things? I mean she even does sometimes part of their work, is not upset/angry when her subordinate is late, never asking him to buy her or bring her anything, is always asking people to help him? Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy that my colleague is having an easier job, but I’m just trying to understand.
MandangoFandango
April 4, 2024 at 11:03 am #430586ManagoFandango
ParticipantHello, thank you Anita and Roberta for the reply, kind response and concern. We don’t have an Union, I live in Eastern Europe, and where I work I don’t think we have this institutions.
Anyway, today she came to me with a request that also wasn’t in my job description that I ignored. (I just didn’t pick up the phone.)
I felt very bad as she was all sweet today, and I thought to myself…was I imagining things? Does she just consider me as a friend and that’s why she asks for favours? But I have to remember that the cycle will start again, when I expect it the least.
Thank you for listening to me and making my day better!
Have an amazing week!
December 26, 2022 at 12:59 am #412643ManagoFandango
ParticipantDear Anita,
Thank you very much for the reply. I feel so uneasy when I’m around her knowing that I don’t like her, and still make an effort to do so because I love my boyfriend and want him to be happy.
I am very happy that it’s not so much about me as about her own behaviour. The only thing I can do is spend less time with her, but encourage my boyfriend do spend time with her alone if he wants to. I just hope that when we have children my boyfriend won’t insist about leaving the kids alone with his mother. I found that when I bring his mother’s behaviour up my boyfriend defends her(I only said that I don’t think she likes me very much considering what she said about his cousin’s girlfriend behind her back versus what she said to her face), but there are times when he by himself sais that she sais hurtful things, drinks a lot, is always late…
Thank you very much for bringing peace of mind to me.
-
AuthorPosts