Hello,

I think all of us struggle with self love. I would suggest going to a therapist or counselor. If that is not an option, I will give you some tips that a counselor gave to me.

First, you need to look in the mirror every morning and say all these good things about yourself. Say things that are true, might be true, or you want them to be true. For example, you can look at yourself and say “I am intelligent. I have a master’s degree.” You can say “I am happy, beautiful, friendly” or anything else you think of. You must do this EVERY day (better in the morning) for at least 30 days. YOU CAN’T MISS ONE DAY. Every day for 30 days. Add new things each day, so you say more and more good things.

Second, you need to buy presents and treats for yourself. YOU ARE WORTH IT! Buy yourself anything you like, for example you can buy yourself a cake. Or flowers. Or a book. Buy little presents for yourself frequently.

These are some tips that I can give for you. Remember, not everyday is going to be a happy day, but you need to be optimistic and get through this. You’ll start to feel a difference on the inside and then you’ll know what love is. You cannot truly love someone, until you love yourself.