Hi Anita,

The squabble was over the fact he suddenly stopped talking to me one afternoon when I went to buy a snack in the local shop. I asked him if he was okay/if I did something wrong and he said it was nothing and that he was just feeling tired. A few hours later he took me out for a walk and said he was disappointed at the fact I didn’t offer to buy groceries for the meal we were having with his family that evening (they cooked for us the night before). I was quite taken aback because he never mentioned this to me at the time, and of course I would have done so had he said it there and then in the supermarket. He continued to guilt-trip make me feel bad about it, to which I said I felt like I was a schoolkid being told off by their teacher. That was literally all that happened. I didn’t say anything horribly mean or rude. He just blew things way out of proportion. He also accused me post the break up of saying things I definitely did not say and would never ever say to my worst enemy, let alone the man I loved (e.g. that he “knew nothing”).

Anyhow, following that disagreement we talked things through and everything went back to normal (or so I thought). I just find it baffling and vexing that he used this me and this ridiculous and trivial disagreement as the reason for our break up. I’ve tried everything to be civil and make amends but he just isn’t responding. I’m facing up to the fact now that it’s time to let go.

Maria

• This reply was modified 7 years ago by Maria.