Naturelover – Yeah, I agree. I’ve tried really hard and have just felt all kinds of broken through this. I’m giving her space but I don’t know if it’s right to keep waiting, as I feel that lack of closure is having a lot of negative effects on me, both physically and mentally.

We were affectionate on a daily basis. We’d hug, cuddle, kiss. When I’d cook she’d come and put her arms around me etc.. But she would then retire to the sofa to sit on her phone, or go to bed very early, to sit on her phone.

I do feel like a backup plan, although in the times that we’ve spoken since (briefly via text) she’s assured me that nothing is happening etc.. I’ve never had a reason not to trust her so I lean towards taking her word for it. She also says she wouldn’t do that to me as her Dad had an affair about 4 years ago and she saw the damage that did to her mother. But saying all that, I could understand if she is saying those things to try and spare my feelings.

The last question – I’m not sure I understand in a way. What would define a sacred or holy relationship?