@Roberta

I am confused.  My brother doesnt have a disability, I do, and I am female.

I do believe you are incorrect also in your assessment, as she threw the fact that she is a nurse, has the qualifications etc in my face saying that because of these things, she KNOWS that my issues are not Autism related.

She has no sympathy whatsoever for my health issues which I think is disgusting for a health care professional.

Thanks for your input, I no longer require help with this matter.

@LemonTree

Thank you for your message.

As mentioned to Roberta, my situation has changed now and I am no longer considering this option, therefore I can forget about this moral dilemma.

Thank you for replying to me and trying to help.

Hello LemonTree,

Thank you for your reply.

No, you havent understood me exactly.

I rented a caravan in a field from a farmer.  I paid rent which was inclusive of all bills, so I never paid any utility bills, I didnt even pay for lightbulbs.  In the UK, you have to pay council tax, I found out that he had been claiming single occupancy and receiving a 25% discount on this bill and that the council were asking questions about me staying there.  He told them I didnt actually live there and just used it as an address.

As it was all bills included, I had no idea he had been doing this until he told me.  I felt very uncomfortable about being a part of this fraud.  He also gold me he woild have to increase my rent to cover the discount he would lose, which I couldn’t afford.  I later found out, he was increasing my rent for the entire council tax bill.

At that time, I moved in with my sister and have been here a year. She is kicking me out in 3 days, therefore I have nowhere to go.  My sister lives 4 hours away from the farm I used to live on.

I dont want to stay in this location as I dont know anybody and am not familiar with it, therefore I am looking for alternative accommodation in familiar places.

The first place I picked, which is close to my friend, the council, who are the ones who prevent homelessness, said that because I have no family or work ties to the area, they couldn’t help me.

They suggested I contact the council where I have 6 years address history, which is where I had to leave.

So my question is, if I go back to that council, they may pick up on the fact that it actually was my address and I did live there and then start asking questions again about the council tax that was not paid for me there.

1. I dont have any family or friends that can put me up.  It’s also difficult me being so far away.  I have spent the last 6 months looking for somewhere to live, but as I’m not working due to ill health, it’s very difficult.

A hostel wouldbt work for me as I find it very stressful being around other people, especially strangers.

2. Wasnt reckless leaving there, as explained.  However, being kicked out of my current place with only a weeks notice hasnt exactly left me with manh options. Like I said, I’d been trying to find housing for months.

3. I cant be generic as they ask for proof of address, therefore I would have to prove that I lived there, which then opens up the questions.

4. I am formerly diagnosed as Autistic, but only last year at the age of 38.  I say misunderstood because the people I have told have not understood.  I’ve had “everyone is a bit autistic” to “it doesn’t change anything” to just being told to “toughen up” when I’ve said I dont understand something.

I also say this because I feel my sister who is kicking me out, doesn’t understand. She says my “issues” arent related to Autism.  I feel like I’m suffering from Autistic Burnout, but she doesn’t believe me.

She says that because she is a nurse, has worked with Autistic people in the past and has a degree in psychology, that she knows better than me.

I’ll admit, I’m still learning, I was pretty much diagnosed and left to get on with it.  However I’ve been reading a book called Unmasking Autism, I literally wrote down 2 A4 pages worth of symptoms that I could relate to.

On my other post on here, the person who responded said it was “a mental health diagnosis” again, this is a misunderstanding.  Autism is a disability, it affects all areas of life.  It’s not a mental health issue as people seem to think, although masking causes some mental health issues.

I hope that answers some of your questions.

Thanks

Yes, my sister does live in the same situation as I do, however, it’s her flat and she has the means to change it, I dont.

It’s not that she “didnt arrange for hot water” as you put it.  She deliberately had it turned off and cut off.

Are you saying laziness is a mental health illness?  I have mental health problems, but i still clean up after myself.

Incorrect. It’s a 2 bedroom flat, i have the spare bedroom. She moved into the living room and still has her own bedroom.

My sister gave me somewhere to live. That’s where the support ended.  She didnt acknowledge my illness and the fact i became unable to do as much as i had been doing, instead she got angry with me.

Being autistic, i struggle to make decisions, struggle to do things at the last minute, struggle with a lot of things and i asked for support to help me with these things.

I’ve literally just been contemplating to myself if I’m the selfish obe, because, unlike my sister, i am able to think about other peoples positions and points of view and consider my own actions.

Unfortunately, my sister only sees her own point of view. I dont believe j have got the support I have needed and it has gradually made me worse and worse.

Being Autistic, my brain works in a very different way to neuro typical people.  I’m even reading that neurodiverse peoples brains are far different from each others than neurotypical peoples brains are from each other.

I think I will leave it at that.  You are clearly keen to make assumptions and pass judgement, something I dont find helpful.