Hello Jade,

I can understand the frustration I can hear coming from not being able to be do things on your own or for decisions for yourself. I have a very similar mother who I can recall in my teenage years would like you wake me up at 8am or so, and then rush through my entire routine of getting ready because she was already ready downstairs. When we went out to restaurants especially I remember having to match their speed of eating because they had wanted to eat and leave as soon as possible.

Like the many who said before me, your mother loves you and really cares about you and I can definitely tell that any argumentative response would only tighten the reins even further then they already are. The best way I can tell you
to handle a mother like that is to begin to do more for yourself. I understand that she is cleaning your room, laundry, etc. but
like the other said you can set boundaries to this or even clean it before your mother could even get to it . Listen to your mother attentively for a little bit at time, when she’s in a good mood with you could try asking for things such as your license or doing your chores. If she says no, rinse and repeat. 🙂