Dear Sebaastian

I’m actually real glad I stumbled upon your post. I was hesitant to share such intimate information going on in my own relationship, but I found your story actually incredibly similar to mine.

I am also in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. We’ve been together for about six months and I spent a weekend with him on New Year’s. I am also a virgin and I’m 22. And that night, I wanted it to be my first time. After I told him, we engaged in a LOT of foreplay, but he only got hard maybe once or twice. I tried things and he tried things, but when the time came to have sex with each other, he would get soft. So unfortunately, nothing happened that night.

I never gone this far with a guy before so I was upset that night because I thought maybe I was the one at fault, being unexperienced and all. But I talked to him and he assured me that he was nervous because he thought about our first time together a lot. I’ve talked to a lot of people (including men) about my situation and they said it is completely normal to have erection problems, especially when it’s your first time with someone.

It does seem like you really love her and that’s all that really matters. I’m sure she loves you too and you shouldn’t worry about losing her over a case like this. If you’re still a little anxious, it’s always healthy to talk about it with your significant other. It’s important to tell her what you like and don’t like, and vice versa. I’m sure the second time around will be better for you both. I’m also learning that it does take time and practice.

Best of luck to you and thank you for this post, as it also offered reassurance to my relationship!

Sincerely

Modal Soul

• This reply was modified 6 years, 9 months ago by modalsoul.
• This reply was modified 6 years, 9 months ago by modalsoul.