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  • #412598
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    Thanks, same to you.
    We got hit with a blizzard and all Christmas plans are off, but we are sitting here watching movies and cooking.

    #409705
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    “do you often or regularly doubt your choices after the fact?”

    Of course I do. Lots of buyers remorse on this house for example.

    #409702
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    That could be part of it.
    It seems to be certain areas. For example, I can work on a car with no problem (apart from physical limitations now).
    Maybe it’s just inexperience?

    #409681
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    Wow, thanks for checking up on me. It’s really nice to have an e mail from a real person and not a mailing list for once 🙂

    The basement insulation/studs are done. I just need to finish insulating around the top of the wall (Rim Joist). Unfortunately my next material order delivery is about a month away.
    I could start building the interior walls, but am still unsure how to approach it. Wish I had some help.

    My anxiety is still bad, usually worse in the morning. I’m going to try switching my antidepressant to bedtime as the upset stomach it causes is getting worse (or I’m noticing it more) and that just makes me feel worse.

    Had my 1st appointment with new councilor. Since we moved I had to find a new one. I must have seen 7-8 in the past several years. A couple were good, some weren’t. No one has ever really gotten to the bottom of my issues.

    Also got a new dog.
    She is great, still needs a lot of work outside on the leash and she really doesn’t like other dogs so walks have to be planned carefully around houses with dogs outside.
    I was hoping she’d make me feel better and in a way she does, but now I have the responsibility of a pet on my hands. Maybe it was a little too early for me to get her? I feel like maybe I should have had the house finished first? But she does ease the loneliness.

    #407264
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    I’ll try, thanks.

    #407262
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    Just a regular old Midwest thunderstorm. Power is back now.

    As for hobbies, I was glad to have a house with a basement, so that I could have a small workshop. Once it’s at least insulated, I can start getting my shop put back together.

    #407257
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    Wow thanks for checking in on me.

    I’m a little stressed after my doctor visit Yesterday. My A1C is about one point away from being fully, rather than pre-diabetic.  So I have that on my mind now.  It’s always something isn’t it?

    I was able to get some cleaning done in the basement this morning before a storm took out the power.

     

    #406964
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    No Anita, it’s probably correct as I still feel uneasy if I’m not doing/accomplishing something.
    Unfortunately, some of the jobs around this house are getting to the point of my physical ability and/or know how. Just mowing the lawn takes it out of me most times.
    Finishing out a basement or replacing a deck (which I’ve never done before) seems a bit overwhelming sometimes, but I’ll give it a try.

    #386243
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    Anita: minimal interactions with people= minimal anxiety
    Normally I would agree, except these are people I care for greatly.
    My wife also suffers from anxiety and she will be seeing her Dr. about her mental issues.

    TeaK: Actually, things have worked out well concerning my Wife’s career. She was able to retire from her long term teaching position and take another one, moving from High School to Middle School, which she finds much easier and gratifying.
    So, she is making her same salary as well as collecting her pension from the first job! That and my job is going better, so the money issues have moved to the background.

    I’m pretty sure my attacks were due to concern for family and friends.
    What I find strange is I didn’t have the feeling of fear, dread or other feelings you’d normally have when I heard the news.
    Very puzzled by that.
    Still looking for ways to calm myself without relying on drugs.

    #366820
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    Yes, I think you are on to something. Please share your thoughts.

    #366818
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    Interesting. Please go on.

    #366807
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    Hi Anita.
    Didn’t realize it had been that long since I’ve posted. I’m still dealing with anxiety, but I had seen a very good therapist who used EMDR on me which helped some of my issues.

    I feel like I have made peace with my job, and they are currently allowing me to work from home, with the occasional guest appearance at the building for training or meetings. I’m not sure how long this will last however.

    I was furloughed for 4 months once this pandemic started and on the days when I wasn’t having anxiety over getting the virus, the state of our country, or if I was going to have a job to return to, I found myself enjoying the time off. I started a garden and was able to spend the day on my terms. I was always debating on when to retire, but now am convinced that I’m going to semi/sort of retire at 62. The days went by very quickly however.

    Money is still a concern and I’m afraid that unless the wife gets a job that pays enough to bring her income back to where it was (either job alone or job + her pension), and a potential move is going to really break us financially.

    #271067
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    Anita, thanks for responding.
    Since you asked, the arthritis is worse (it’s never going to get better is it?) I’ve accepted it as a normal part of life. It’s been bad this past 3 weeks as I have been doing manual labor at work, building large wooden crates for show displays to be shipped in. Not my job and probably shouldn’t be doing it, but I have a co-worker who’s year and a half older than me and he’s out there doing it too. Hard to wimp out when the he’s getting it done (BTW us older guys can work circles around the 28 yer old!).

    In other news, the super annoying co-worker that I complained about finally got fired this past spring, so I don’t have to deal with him anymore!

    Maybe I have to be working in order to feel useful and not be accused of being a lazy person (something I think is a holdover from my father). Even thought he passed away 6 years ago, I still feel him over my shoulder sometimes.

    #271005
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    Anita,

    I did re read them. Was there something that stood out to you as a solution? If there was, I didn’t catch it, other than the self employment thought.

    #162228
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    Happy to see my thread is still going!
    Happy to report that I am doing better. I’ve always assumed the bosses and co-workers knew what was going on, had a plan, and so forth. I’ve come to realize that no one completely has their shit together.

    I’ve been given some responsibilities, and it seems to suite me. The boss has told me he likes the work I do and my attention to detail. People have started to ask me for help and advice.

    Confidence is what I think I have been lacking. Starting to see the company as “mine” rather than someplace to work…..I guess they call it taking ownership.

    Anyway……I just read Sabastien’s post. Sorry about your string of bad luck. On the other hand, I see it as you having total freedom. No kids, wife or house to be responsible for, only yourself (am I correct?) I would suggest you change your major to something like forestry, environmental science, something in an agricultural degree, or any career that’s going to get you in an outdoor environment. You the opportunity to do anything at this point.

     

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