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May 7, 2023 at 4:35 pm #418367
[quote quote=418199]You mentioned you’ll start seeing a new psychiatrist. Is she also offering counseling/psychotherapy? Because I guess that’s what you’d need if you want to address childhood issues.[/quote]
I am unsure but it said visits were 60-90 minutes. Any other Psy I have dealt with was 15-20 min.May 5, 2023 at 4:00 am #418198
So I’m wondering how to deal with this to avoid another incident?
If I’m not feeling any strong emotions when I hear the news, what am I supposed to do to avoid the anxiety later?May 4, 2023 at 10:47 am #418180
[quote quote=418178]My untrained guess is that the unconscious issue that you would prefer not to make conscious is something to do with the notion of death. If so facing your fear and concept of death, making that conscious should help reduce the number and or intensity of future anxiety attacks.[/quote]
That may be close to the truth. I thought I’d made my peace with death, but maybe not 🙁 Our group of friends as well as us are all past 60, so it’s probably on my mind more than before.
Getting a new Psychiatrist so I’ll bring that up to her.
[quote quote=418179]Well, it can happen to anyone, however I believe there are still reasons. They don’t always have to be physical, such as high cholesterol, but there can be psychological reasons too, such as stress. And I believe that suppressing emotions can actually contribute to stress and cardiovascular problems… Anyway, I don’t think it’s that random. But that’s just my opinion, I tend to believe in the mind-body connection and a holistic view of disease…[/quote]
That also should be true. This friend is one of the most relaxed mellow guys I know, but his wife is pretty intense. He may suppress some anger, but I’ve never seen him let it out.May 4, 2023 at 6:28 am #418174
“Maybe this is a stretch, so please disregard if it doesn’t apply. But in any case, it seems like something is triggered – something that is beyond your conscious awareness. One possibility why things are beyond our conscious awareness is that they were not allowed to be expressed, typically in our childhood (say we weren’t allowed to cry or show weakness), and so we have suppressed them.”
That sounds pretty accurate. My wife on the other hand will show the emotions right away, where I don’t. I should feel it at the time, but I don’t. I wasn’t sad, I was surprised but glad.
This issue with my friend’s heart trouble is actually good news as they caught it in time. Having the same procedure done myself, I’m sure that he’s feeling better (still waiting on his return call).
Unlike me, he’s healthy, active, does not have high cholesterol or blood pressure and is not overweight.
Maybe that’s the scary part? It could happen to anyone anytime regardless of taking precautions?May 4, 2023 at 4:29 am #418169
Again last night!
A friend discovered a 90% blockage in his LAD and had 2 stents installed. 5 years ago I had an 80% blockage in the same artery and had a stent installed.
They call this one “The Widowmaker” because it can be fatal if completely blocked.
Anyhow, he’s fine now.
I was sound asleep, but got up to use the bathroom last night and realized my heart was beating fast and uneven, and I was hot and sweaty. I took a Xanax to make sure it wasn’t due to the cough medicine I took before bed, and sure enough, within the next hour, my heart began to slow down and beat normally again.
Sounds like I’m some type of empath that absorbs the problems of other people that I know? Why would I be so affected?
Can anyone shine a light on this?December 24, 2022 at 1:01 pm #412598
Thanks, same to you.
We got hit with a blizzard and all Christmas plans are off, but we are sitting here watching movies and cooking.November 6, 2022 at 12:07 pm #409705
“do you often or regularly doubt your choices after the fact?”
Of course I do. Lots of buyers remorse on this house for example.November 6, 2022 at 11:43 am #409702
That could be part of it.
It seems to be certain areas. For example, I can work on a car with no problem (apart from physical limitations now).
Maybe it’s just inexperience?November 5, 2022 at 1:43 pm #409681
Wow, thanks for checking up on me. It’s really nice to have an e mail from a real person and not a mailing list for once 🙂
The basement insulation/studs are done. I just need to finish insulating around the top of the wall (Rim Joist). Unfortunately my next material order delivery is about a month away.
I could start building the interior walls, but am still unsure how to approach it. Wish I had some help.
My anxiety is still bad, usually worse in the morning. I’m going to try switching my antidepressant to bedtime as the upset stomach it causes is getting worse (or I’m noticing it more) and that just makes me feel worse.
Had my 1st appointment with new councilor. Since we moved I had to find a new one. I must have seen 7-8 in the past several years. A couple were good, some weren’t. No one has ever really gotten to the bottom of my issues.
Also got a new dog.
She is great, still needs a lot of work outside on the leash and she really doesn’t like other dogs so walks have to be planned carefully around houses with dogs outside.
I was hoping she’d make me feel better and in a way she does, but now I have the responsibility of a pet on my hands. Maybe it was a little too early for me to get her? I feel like maybe I should have had the house finished first? But she does ease the loneliness.September 21, 2022 at 6:57 am #407264
I’ll try, thanks.September 20, 2022 at 3:54 pm #407262
Just a regular old Midwest thunderstorm. Power is back now.
As for hobbies, I was glad to have a house with a basement, so that I could have a small workshop. Once it’s at least insulated, I can start getting my shop put back together.September 20, 2022 at 1:18 pm #407257
Wow thanks for checking in on me.
I’m a little stressed after my doctor visit Yesterday. My A1C is about one point away from being fully, rather than pre-diabetic. So I have that on my mind now. It’s always something isn’t it?
I was able to get some cleaning done in the basement this morning before a storm took out the power.September 14, 2022 at 2:50 pm #406964
No Anita, it’s probably correct as I still feel uneasy if I’m not doing/accomplishing something.
Unfortunately, some of the jobs around this house are getting to the point of my physical ability and/or know how. Just mowing the lawn takes it out of me most times.
Finishing out a basement or replacing a deck (which I’ve never done before) seems a bit overwhelming sometimes, but I’ll give it a try.September 13, 2021 at 3:00 am #386243
Anita: minimal interactions with people= minimal anxiety
Normally I would agree, except these are people I care for greatly.
My wife also suffers from anxiety and she will be seeing her Dr. about her mental issues.
TeaK: Actually, things have worked out well concerning my Wife’s career. She was able to retire from her long term teaching position and take another one, moving from High School to Middle School, which she finds much easier and gratifying.
So, she is making her same salary as well as collecting her pension from the first job! That and my job is going better, so the money issues have moved to the background.
I’m pretty sure my attacks were due to concern for family and friends.
What I find strange is I didn’t have the feeling of fear, dread or other feelings you’d normally have when I heard the news.
Very puzzled by that.
Still looking for ways to calm myself without relying on drugs.September 16, 2020 at 10:13 am #366820
Yes, I think you are on to something. Please share your thoughts.