A similar (but different) thing happened to me. I do not know if I can be that much help to you bacause I am still struggling; trying to deal with the aftermath. You see, I was in love with my college boyfreind. Then I graduated and he went back for one more year, met someone and gave me the axe. I was heartbroken but always thought I would find someone special. Fine. I moved on completely and even had funny and fond memories of him. Then, this year he contacted me to apologize for breakig up with me in the cowardly way he did (a letter). 27 years later!!! I was nice and polite, answered his questions about my life, learned about his successes, his wife, his family. That was 3 months ago and everyday he enters my thoughts. I have not had children but really wanted that with him. He proposed when he was a senior and I told him I thought we should wait. So, I am trying to look at all of the blessings I have had in life, how I would not have become the woman I am now had we stayed together. Like Mark said, try not to dwell on the why because we can never know that. I try to fall back on the old addage, “everything happens for a reason”. But that only helps a little. The really tough thing is, I love my husband and am thankful that my old flame did not want to see me. I don’t know hat I would have done. My heart aches a little as I write this. I hadn’t hought of this guy in 25 years or so and now I think of him everyday, I am jealous of his life (or what he tells me his life is) but every day I seek help and do my best to go on AGAIN, I got over him! I thought I did. But there is a lesson here. I know there is. And, I am going to do what Mark suggested, list why we were not good for each other. Just know that others are struggling…