He is in the midst of a divorce. She moved out a year ago but the holidays spurred a lot of emotions he didn’t expect. There’s no chance of recency, but he is mourning. Such a good man, he didn’t deserve what is happening to him. He has to move from the only house his kids have ever known. He can’t handle the added pressure of a relationship, which I totally understand.

Voov… You seem so spiritual and compassionate. My be has no friends here. His family is hours away and unable emotionally and physically help through this, the move and everything else. His wife cheated on him several times, and after she left, and through therapy, he realized he was never that Happy w/her, they just were comfortable and went through the motions. She was incredibly selfish, and he is incredibly giving. He has nothing to give to a relationship right now. I understand that completely. He must get through the divorce, the move and the ink has to be dry. As for mourning his “loss”, all he is mourning is the betrayal and the time wasted. We’ve agreed to stay good friends. I am keeping my options open (dating others, etc), but I refuse to abandon him. He needs me. Everyone here is telling me to go, but I can’t do that to him. I’ve dating so, so many men and have never met anyone like him. If we end up not being a couple in the end, so be it, but he is my best friend, and for now if that’s all I can get, I’m thrilled with that.