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  • December 27, 2016 at 5:04 am #123672
    Paula_G
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    Dear Anita,
    I have been thinking about your idea for some time… with dating serveral people at a time to reduce the fear of rejection. Up to a certain degree i think it is a good approach. And when he was on his business trip I have met someone else… But then on the other side at some point in dating, with more involvement happening, it is hard for me to concentrate on more people. I am not sure, i am still thinking about your idea…

    Best Paula

    December 24, 2016 at 6:19 am #123432
    Paula_G
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    Dear nina,
    Thank you for your perspective. I guess you are right. I am trying to keep calm and dont take it too personal.
    Yes maybe i go on some other date… I was focusing on him, as i like him and did not want to confuse myself with other people.. But maybe it’s not confusing…

    Paula

    December 23, 2016 at 3:44 pm #123393
    Paula_G
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    Hey Anita,
    You got me, yes i am freaking out and it has to do with fear from rejection.
    I tried this imagination and it feels strange, its hard to imagine that, but when i do.. I don’t feel this huge peace, but for sure i can see myself being ok.
    It’s hard to stay focused with high stress levels and also see things in perspective when i am getting carried away but emotions, tensions etc.
    Best paula

    December 23, 2016 at 6:31 am #123363
    Paula_G
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    Dear Ninad,
    I am sorry to hear that you ate struggeling and indeed I can understand, that you are feeling manipulated, as you said in the first message. It seems to me, that you are trying your best to get along with her or be good to her.
    She is causing you angst and you feel rejected, I am sorry to hear that. Please try to consider what it would look like if you were to be your own best friend in this situation: What would you recommend in dealing with this lady? How would you comfort yourself in disturbing situations. I surely believe, that we need other people, but still imagining you as your own best friend might help you to get an idea how to deal with her.
    Be strong! do not let the bully occupy your good heart.

    Paula

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