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September 14, 2023 at 2:12 pm #422115
Thank you for replying again.
Thankfully, for the pregnancy, the high levels of anxiety have reduced now and I am feeling less stressed. It’s interesting what you say about cortisol – this makes a lot of sense. I’m doing more research about giving birth and parenting, which is helping me feel less overwhelmed.
Thank you for your kind words about empathy in the situation – I’m trying to apply this to myself and trying to see that it felt as though I was a completely different person then. I’m trying to show kindness to the previous versions of myself – after all, they effectively got me where I am now. I would be far kinder to a friend if they were going through a similar situation. I don’t want to drag up old feelings for my husband in bringing this up again.
I read something very similar recently about how a bad parent wouldn’t be so worried about being a good parent, and that did provide some comfort – thanks for reiterating this!
We have most things we need in preparation for the baby – it’s feeling very real 🙂September 14, 2023 at 2:01 pm #422114
Thank you for your reply. You make a good point in that ‘no one is perfect’ – this is something I am trying to process for myself. I think applying empathy to myself is something I must work on during my therapy sessions.
Many thanks for taking the time to respondSeptember 9, 2023 at 2:50 pm #421950
Thank you very much for your reply, I appreciate your kindness.
I’m currently in my third trimester, physically the symptoms have been ok, it’s just really taking its toll mentally.
<p style=”text-align: left;”>I think you’re right – I do feel like I’ve failed my husband and I think it’s effecting how I feel I can be a mother. It all feels a bit too good to be true and that I don’t deserve this happiness because of my previous actions – specifically because I wasn’t forthcoming with the whole truth for reasons explained previously.</p>
Self forgiveness is really difficult for me but it’s something I hope to work on in therapy. I like the idea of reframing my fears and thinking about how that makes me want to parent. I’m thinking now that I would just like the baby to arrive so that I know a bit more about what I’m dealing with, and it’s not so uncertain.
Thank you very much again for your response.