At 26, you sound burned out and exhausted from the dating treadmill. There is an ancient expression: “Meshane makom, meshane mazal.” Change your place, change your luck. I think, at this point, if you continue to pursue the same activities in the same places, with the same people, you will continue to experience the same disappointment. My advice would be to move away to a new city (hopefully not too far from work) and join new clubs, meet new people, NOT with the idea of dating/marriage, but with the idea of socializing and meeting new people for interesting activities (hiking, horseback riding, cooking, traveling, gardening, fishing, sailing, tennis, etc.) Just enjoy your life and learn new things. See the world. You said it yourself: “I am scared to go back out there again because I feel so much pressure on every date I go on.” It’s the pressure that is killing the spark. They feel the pressure too! And maybe that’s what’s turning them off. Remove the pressure by engaging in fun activities that are not considered “dating,” and perhaps some sparks will ignite. And no, I don’t think you need to try and be less genuine. People will read through that quickly and will be even less inclined to find that spark. Just be you.