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January 20, 2020 at 4:57 pm #334351
Hey, all. Sorry for the late reply. Had a little anxiety scare, but I’m good now. I’m so grateful I have a good therapist 🙂 Any-who:
@anita Hey, Anita. Actually, there are positions in psychology where they accept post-baccalaureates, it’s just a matter of finding them and landing one. Yes, most of the solid career positions require a PhD. I have faith though.
@Lara I don’t really like marketing. Yes, I am utilizing the mentors around me to get what I need at this point. Professors, supervisors, and the like. It struck me the other day that it’s best not to do this alone, so you’re right on the money with that. I have faith in myself because there are plenty of psych majors who don’t have the kind of experience under their belt like I do, so I’m trying to stay in a place of gratitude.
@Inky It is common, but for some reason it still doesn’t feel good. I’m the type that loves to be a free spirit and do as I please without the opinion of my parents. having my own space is what I daydream a lot about, but I think it takes me away from the present moment. I’ll have to ask my therapist how I can handle this craving.January 12, 2020 at 8:26 pm #333039
Thanks anita, you’re such a faithful and active member on here. I’m glad you’re someone to count on for a response.October 30, 2019 at 7:46 pm #320653
It’s honestly not as simple as that, and it’s a “her” by the way. We’ve been “besties” since high school, and it’s instances from then that I cling on to that make my end of the relationship with her a love/hate one.
She’s not constantly abrasive, but the moments she was I didn’t defend myself adequately, so it’s actually disappoinment in myself for not having my own back.
What she thinks of me or the reason why she thinks she can do certain things, I don’t know and I don’t care, that’s her business. On the account of the example I have you, I honestly can’t just fall off the radar because there’s history. Dealingwith somemeone who you’ve also had good moments with is difficult because there’s the fear of what she’ll think of me when I start standing up to her..
I wonder sometimes… If I had the necessary skills then, would she even be in my life now? Part of me says no….I feel so discompassionate right now, ha ha
October 22, 2019 at 11:55 am #319165
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@Priyanka “I am my best version when I am myself.” I love that! I’m going to turn this into an affirmation! I hope you feel a lot better knowing you’re not alone. Yes, several here have expressed the benefits of journaling and I am currently maintaining that. Thank you so much for you input, I truly appreciate your advice!
@Anita I love your advice on depending on myself to protect myself and be the one to bring about positive changes in my life. This really helps strengthen my idea that all the best resources are within me. Wow, I’m really going to meditate on this point later.</p>
For the assertiveness, I’ll give you an example that has already happened. I have a “friend” of mine that can be very argumentative, haughty, and hypocritical at times at the expense of humiliating me.
So let’s say in a scenario she texts me, “Hey, I’m back from school for three days. On Saturday me and X are going to a party. Come with us!”
Then I’ll say, “Nah, I don’t feel like going to a party. I’d rather stay home.”
Then “friend” would say something like, “And do what? Stay home and be lazy like always? You’re coming.”
And here is where I’ll unassertively squirm my way out….
October 16, 2019 at 8:55 pm #318297
- This reply was modified 7 months, 1 week ago by Ray.
Thanks, Peggy! All the best to you too!
@Anita: Yes, my therapist says my OCD is completely “managed’ at this point. I even gave it a name throughout therapy, I called my OCD “Bob”. She told me to give it a loser name, ha ha. But I’m glad to hear your OCD has been treated well too. Glad you’re still interested in talking, you seem like a very wise person! Feel free to talk to me whenever you want about things also!
Right now, I have another issue. Since I’m a college graduation, the fear of not getting a job has been pressing down on me for quite a while. After graduation, my certainty and confidence in my skills has been severely threatened (quite normal for lots of graduates) and I’m even embarrassed to say I even resorted to attempting “spiritual” practices like Law of Attraction because it promises your “heart’s desire”. I need to be honest with myself and say uncertainty is a really uncomfortable feeling.
How would you deal with this, Anita? Have you been in this situation before?October 11, 2019 at 1:22 pm #317359
Yes! I just started journaling again! I haven’t done so in a while that there are some issues “backed up” that would turn into an essay in one sitting! Thank you Peggy and Aiko for the advice on journaling.
On the assertiveness, I’ll have to practice on that because like you say, Anita, it’s a skill not a trait, it’s just a matter of finding the perfect balance between grace and respectfulness, and being stern and confident. Blowing up doesn’t get me what I want, being “in the grey” so to say with aggression and passivity is the best area for me or anybody to respond better to your feelings.
And Aiko I love the idea of modeling someone who I want to emulate when it comes to their assertiveness!
I express my deepest and most infinite gratitude to you, Peggy, Anita, and Aiko. All this advice is brilliant and I can’t wait to show my therapist!
Peace be with all of you 🙂