Hi, Anita! When I said how to deal with my brother in law I didn’t meant making him change his mind. I meant: should I kick his child out of my private property too when they come round? Is this really how a family should be? Kick ourselves out because you cannot stand other people children around? I must mention we were all together for welcoming party( they moved abroad, come twice a year home), birthday parties, Christmas and New Years. He’s talking trash about every member of his family in front or behind their back. I think me being there, at that time just filled the glass, there were other kids of the family and aunts, grandmother, etc. Us showing up and him reacting like that I think was a bit like an indirect message to the others that he’s not happy with them being there. Never mind!
I told my husband what happened and he was very upset! he was more upset with me because he saw I’ve been crying over this! His exact words were: ask a person what they don’t have: BRAINS! he said I should apply the same treatment to them, not answer their phone calls anymore( she often turns to me for advice when baby is sick), not talk to them. I would have been gutted if he said: just get over it! and would have been forced to interact with these ”kind” people again. I think I turned the other cheek with my brother in law more than I should have, just not to cause fights inside the family but I’ll not accept this again.