Dear Sadpanda

I’m so sorry that your relationship was so difficult and that it ended in such a stressful way. It sounds from what you’ve said as if the circumstances during the relationship were very stressful too, such as living in a place which was being knocked down around you, and this can’t have helped your state of mind at all.

If I understand you correctly, the relationship only properly ended 3 days ago so it’s not surprising you are feeling so unhappy. It is a great thing that you are seeing a counsellor who can help you go through your feelings properly. Are you spending much time with friends or family members? Planning some nice things to do with them will help you to remember that you are loved.

You also say that you wish things could be different and that you wish your ex could see that his unhappiness and the stressful circumstances is what caused the break-up. It might be that he feels the same way however it may not be possible for him to put these things to one side in order to be the partner that you deserve. You deserve someone who won’t neglect you and who will give you the love and support that you need.

Please let us know how you are getting on

Sal