I suppose it is quite manipulative, now that you put it that way. She couldn’t deal with my decision to leave (which didn’t have anything to do with her but had more to do with my professional life), and she did admit that she wanted to hurt me for it.

Dear Anita – thanks for your response.

She called me up the next morning, told me what happened, and said that the other girl was there when no one else was – and that she’d always be grateful to her for that. And that she wished I’d been there for her.

She is fine – she puked soon after and the situation was fine. But I sometimes can’t get over how messed up she must have felt that night and I wish that I had not gone to sleep/taken a small break. I honestly thought that was the best thing to do at the time, she was up till really late and we had been fighting for so long, I thought it was better if we both just took a step back for a short time.

Unfortunately, plane tickets between India and the United States are really expensive, and visa rules strict, so she probably can’t visit me anytime soon. I’m also a student, I’m not earning, and she’s just started earning. We did speak about it for about a month. I made it clear that the reason for me to leave was only and only to pursue my career as I honestly felt that it would have stagnated in my own country at this point in time – and I might have ended up being really unhappy if I’d made the decision to stay only based on our relationship, and that in turn might have affected the relationship. I told her that I was still willing to give the relationship another try long distance, come to see her whenever I could, and once I had some experience professionally, come back to her. It would have taken a minimum of three years however. I had told her this much before, as I didn’t want to mislead her. She was initially ready to try it out after all this happened, then suddenly changed her mind and told me that she doesn’t want to feel alone with me far away. She’s dating the other woman now.