Hi Anita
Thank you for taking the time to read my words and to share your thoughts.
Its funny, I hadn’t paid much attention to his anxiety. I thought it gave me more reason to be kind and loving to him, I guess I thought it he was in a loving and kind environment that it would improve or go away. It comes in waves, sometimes its not there at all and sometimes he seems consumed by it.
I also hadn’t considered his words to be manipulative – I naturally trust and see the best in people, it takes a lot for me to consider other possibilities. I kind of see myself as one of those people who is here to help and heal, show compassion and love. I find it hard to walk away or abandon anyone, and I hate the thought of hurting anyone.
The children both really like him, he is very different to their dad. In our home he is thoughtful and shows interest in what they are doing, encouraging them to talk and to draw, something they haven’t had from a man before. He has taught my son to fish and he spends time talking to my little girl and listening to her sing.
He always encourages me too, with my studying. He just isn’t physically here, but it sounds as though you feel that is probably a good thing?
Claire